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A woman has sparked a debate after telling her future mother-in-law not to make her wedding 'all about her'.
Writing in Reddit's AITA forum, the anonymous poster describes her fiancé's mum as being 'incredibly sweet' to her up until she started planning her wedding.
After announcing their engagement, the woman wanted to enjoy being engaged to her fiancé by waiting a month or two before they started planning. However her fiancé's mum insisted that they start planning right away.
She writes: "We looked at flowers, decorations, themes, photographers, etc but hadn't found anything that stuck out. The more we were looking at wedding invitations, locations and all that, I started to notice how much input my future mother-in-law was putting in."
The Reddit user even recounts some of the awkward conversations she had with her future mother-in-law, including disagreements over flowers, steering away from 'traditional' themes, and claiming that the wedding dress she chose is 'too big' and 'will not suit' the poster's figure.
She adds: "I was a little uncomfortable with all the feedback as it was mine and my fiancé's wedding and it was supposed to be about OUR dream wedding, not hers.
"I remained calm and polite as I figured she was simply just trying to help me understand what was right, as she had been married and had experience.
"As the planning progressed it seemed more and more like she wanted to plan her OWN wedding which made me a little frustrated."
The woman says she tried to explain to her future mother-in-law that she and her fiancé were not planning to have a fully traditional Catholic church wedding because they are both atheists.
"We just wanted something that would fit our dreams, not hers."
After agreeing to be less 'pushy', this change did not last long. After confronting her once again about taking over the planning duties, the woman explains that she told her fiancé's mum "if she couldn't respect me and my fiancé then she didn't have to come to the wedding."
Many Reddit users came out in support of the woman. One person said: "Ignore her completely and plan YOUR wedding. Your future husband is on your side so hopefully everything works out.".
A second user responded with: "It's your wedding not hers. She is being very disrespectful. Keep this boundary; don't let her guilt trip."
However, some Reddit commenters showed some understanding for the poster's mother-in-law, with one person writing: "You might have been a little harsh in the delivery but it is your wedding. It should be about you and your fiancé. Wedding planning is stressful. I hope you get back on track and have the wedding of your dreams."
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