A Reddit user has sparked debate after telling of how she ignored her sister's wedding invite when it arrived in the post.
The user, who goes by @Reasonable_Cabinet54 on the platform, shared how she didn't want to go to her half-sister's nuptials after she previously cancelled on her special day at the last minute.
Posting in the thread 'Am I The A*ssh*le', the 33-year-old woman explained that she had asked her sibling to be her maid of honour, but was disappointed when she pulled out of the wedding at the last minute, citing travel expenses as her excuse.
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Following the wedding, the bride then saw that her sister had in fact been on holiday at a resort on the day of the wedding - a resort they had travelled to nonetheless.
"So...I wasn't truly truly upset until then. I made the decision to unfollow her posts for a while and tried not to stew on it," she said in her Reddit thread.
"We got an invite in the mail with her apologies for missing our wedding but she wanted to invite us to her wedding in two months time.
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"I ignored it, I haven't said anything to her, and I am pretty sure I threw the invite away. I feel some guilt and like I should be a bigger person than this and there are of course different opinions from people about how this should be handled."
She went on to ask if she was being unreasonable...
But there were tonnes of people in the comments who thought her response was totally justified.
"What she did was just really bad and if I were you I wouldn't respond to the invitation," one wrote. "If she contacts you for an answer, just tell her that unfortunately you've booked a visit to a resort and will be unavailable-but she's welcome to check out your mini-vacation on Facebook!"
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"Hell don't even tell her that," another wrote. "Say yes, you'll be there! Get involved! Make commitments! Then ghost her and take a vacation and post pictures. People like her are despicable. They will never get it until it's done to them".
A third wrote: "I had to miss the wedding of a cousin I loved dearly because she lives far away and the cost of the trip just wasn't within my budget.
"It broke my heart to not be there for her on such an important day, but I was living pay check to pay check at the time and I had to be realistic about my expenses. Sometimes money is a very real obstacle that no amount of love can overcome.
"Though that obviously wasn't the case for [the Reddit user's] sister."
A fourth thought that a more mature solution was needed, writing: "You actually call your sister and TALK/COMMUNICATE about how she hurt you. I'm not saying go to the wedding.
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"I'm saying tell her that she committed a major d*ck move and that you know what she did and it really made you sad.
"Because of this, you aren't going to be attending her wedding..."
And another Redditer agreed, writing: "Yeah, decline politely.
"Avoid any understandable urge to make spiteful comments or actions. Those will only cause the rest of the family to start badgering you. Have a good day with your family.
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"It's said the best revenge is living well. That may apply here. Don't let her a**holianism distract you from having a good life".
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