A wedding guest who won more than £5,000 from a wedding favour scratch card has sparked debate online after refusing to share the money with the bride and groom.
A woman took to Reddit to talk about a recent wedding she’d been to – a destination wedding in Cyprus, no less.
To thank guests for coming to the Med, the bride and groom gave out scratch cards which had been placed for each person ‘in a cute little pouch’.
And the gesture ended up being an especially kind move for one person, who actually won some pretty serious cash.
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The only problem? The question then arose about whether or not she should share the winnings with the happy couple.
The Reddit user explained: “So last week I was a bridesmaid at my best friend's wedding - which was a destination wedding in Cyprus.
“Whole day was lovely, we had a wonderful time!
“For context I have a close friend group of 10, all couples and we all decided to make a big holiday of it and rented a villa for 10 days, with the wedding on the 5th.
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“As part of the wedding favours the bride and groom gave everyone a lottery scratch card in a cute little pouch. We all sat down to eat and while we were waiting, one of our friend group (call her Sarah) started jumping up and down shouting she had won £5000 on the scratch card.
“The whole room erupted in applause, and the bride and groom ran over to congratulate them. It was already a very happy occasion but this just made it even better.”
She continued: “The next day, we all sat down to breakfast in the villa and were chatting about the wedding and Paul and Sarah’s win.
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“They were saying what the planned to do with the winnings and everyone was asking questions and I casually asked how much of it they were going to give to the Bride and Groom.
“There was no agenda behind my question - I didn’t ask because I was trying to hint that they should this, it just never occurred to me as a possibility that they wouldn’t give at least a small amount as a belated wedding gift to the Bride and Groom, given they wouldn’t have had the ticket without them.”
She said the couple went ‘very quiet’ before ‘Paul’ admitted they weren’t going to give them anything – before ‘Sarah’ ‘got up and walked out’.
“Later by the pool, it was clear Sarah had been crying and Paul said I was TA for making them feel awkward and implying they were cheap,” she said, adding that she then apologised and made it clear that was not what she had meant.
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"I just said it because that’s what I would do in their situation, but it is their money and their decision so they should do what they want with the money (I forget exactly how I worded it - but that was the jist),” she went on.
“Paul’s walked off and neither of them spoke to me for the rest of the holiday or since.
“Speaking with the rest of our friend group and my partner they have said they agree, they should give something to the bride and groom as a thank you, but also said that while it wasn’t my intention my question did made the situation awkward.”
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Having turned to Reddit’s ‘Am I the A**hole forum to see what others thought, sadly the general consensus was not in her favour.
One wrote: “YTA. Everybody got a scratch card, they won. It is NOT your business to inquire how they would spend that money, especially in public, regardless of your intention.”
Another agreed: “You put them on the spot. In a room full of people. It's like when someone proposes marriage in public and the other person really wants to say no. Lottery is given as a gift often. Unless the winnings are life changing sharing isn't necessary IMO. Are we supposed to split every $10?”
A third said: “YTA. Yikes. The scratch card was a gift to them. There was a lot of presumption and implied judgment in your question and your subsequent conversation with them (which made you look even worse), whether you meant it or not. Mind your own business in the future.”
Jess Hardiman