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Tackiness isn’t often reserved for the big day, but sometimes, brides choose to do things that guests can’t understand.
But this? Wow.
One bride-to-be has been slammed over her wedding invitation decision, and it didn’t go down well.
Turning to a budget wedding group on Facebook, the soon-to-be-bride asked members how she could approach asking guests to contribute money as she has an ‘established life together’ with her fiancé of six years and three-year-old child.
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She explained: “We just skipped around with the steps and left getting married last so we don’t need wedding gifts.”
She went on to reveal that the couple planned to get married with a ‘great Gatsby meets dark fairy forest theme’ in October.
The pair want to get married on a farm in Alabama and believe that as the wedding is mere months away, she’s been struggling with asking her guests in advance to pay up some cash.
As she’s only just getting the invites out, she wanted to know how to politely word her request.
She said: “One issue is how to ask that we don’t need wedding gifts but would prefer gifts in the honeymoon fund. Please help, I’m so lost and don’t want to sound rude at all.”
If you thought the wedding was in crisis mode, you’d be correct as she stated that she’d already blown her wedding budget and intends to be reimbursed some cash through donations.
Her draft wedding invitation stated: “In lieu of traditional wedding gifts, the bride and groom have asked for gifts to their honeymoon fund.”
However, some have slammed her and even shared her post in a wedding shaming group to blast her request.
One person wrote: “Don’t ask for money nor gifts. There is no non-tacky way to ask for money or gifts. The end.”
Another said: “It’s so easy to ‘ask’ for money though without being tacky. You either don’t make a registry at all and people read between the lines, or you make a registry that has like two things you actually need on it.”
Someone else suggested: “This is so easy; you don’t say anything. You just put a card with the invitation that includes a link and a QR code to your honeymoon fund.”
Whilst others debated the topic of asking for money or gifts as a bride, some believed that the wording was just find and there were no issues with what she was asking.
Others went on to share their own experiences of how they’ve asked guests to give money.
One person said: “We just told everyone we had all we needed in life, so anything they wanted to donate to a present, they could put in our six-year-old son’s bank account...
"No awkwardness about money as it was going to our son’s uni, driving and house deposit fund for when he’s 18. Who needs presents when you have everything and everyone you need?"
Is she going too far?
Britt Jones