'Outercourse' explained - here's how it differs from intercourse and abstinence

You might think you've done everything there is to do in the bedroom, but have you give 'outercourse' a try?

Everyone has their own different tastes and interests when it comes to activities beneath the sheets, with some couples wanting to experiment more than others.

Of course, sometimes even within a couple there can be a gap in desire and how often one person wants intimacy.

As the name suggests, outercourse differs from full intercourse, but it's not abstinence either.

So what exactly is it?

To confuse matters, the definition changes depending on who you ask, but many people interpret it as a broad term for non-penetrative genital stimulation

For some people, it means anything besides full sex, so any and all foreplay is included.

For others, its anything without penetration, so that includes fingers, toys and the like are also excluded.

Outercourse is just a different way of trying intimacy with your partner (Getty Stock)

Some people do use outercourse as a form of abstinence, as they think the rest of it doesn't count if there's no p-in-v involved.

It could also include things like passionate kissing and sharing a romantic or sensual massage, all the way through to mutual masturbation.

It can even be something as seemingly simple as gazing in one another's eyes, hair brushing or stroking, up to full on teasing, grinding and stroking.

Some couples may rely on outercourse and foreplay only due to physical or health reasons, or they just don't feel like, or can't, have full intercourse.

However, don't be misguided in thinking that there is zero risk of pregnancy with outercourse, just because there's no full penetration.

Yes, the risks are much lower, but semen on hands (or elsewhere) could still result in a pregnancy if you're not also on birth control.

For some people, outercourse is an alternative to abstinence (Getty Stock)

Outercourse is also an option if you're relying on condoms, and realise you've run out.

One expert from Better2Know says: "Remember that outercourse doesn’t have a strict definition, and different people may define it differently. The critical thing is to find a level of sexual activity that you’re comfortable with that works for you and your partner."

As with intercourse, communication and boundaries are key.

It's all about talking to your partner to find what you're both comfortable with, and if there's anything you want to explore or try (or not!)

Establishing boundaries with your partner can also help you to relax and enjoy it more.

Will you be giving it a go if you haven't already?