Expert reveals how to last longer in the bedroom

Now - talking about the weird and wonderful world of sex can always be a tad awkward, even for the most experienced of us out there.

There's a whole lot of stuff going on when you're getting down so it makes sense why some people are after some tips and tricks when it comes to what goes on between the sheets.

So, for anyone who wishes they could last longer in the bedroom, one sexpert has come through with seven top tips on how to make the deed last a little longer.

Hope Flynn, founder of women's collective FeedmeFemale and head of content at STI testing kit iPlaySafe, has offered her expertise when it comes to getting down and dirty in an interview with The Sun.

Practice edging

Up first on the rundown is practicing edging.

In case you're unfamiliar with the lingo, edging simply refers to a sexual technique whereby an orgasm is controlled.

It can either be practiced alone or with a partner and involves the maintenance of a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period without reaching climax.

So, if you find yourself reaching orgasm too quickly, then Hope recommends you try this out.

She explains: "All you have to do is stop stimulation before you feel like you are going to climax - essentially you keep stopping and starting to ensure you are having sex for longer."

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Longer foreplay

Next is elongating the foreplay section of your bedroom antics.

Now, we all know that a quickie has its time and place, but when you've got a little more time on your hands, then Hope suggests you and your partner draw out the process so as to not rush the act.

"Foreplay should be an essential part of sex so why not put your hands and mouths to the test by pleasuring your partner prior to intercourse," she says.

"Get the juices and blood flowing to all the right areas to get you both super excited for the main event."

Erotic massage

Leading on from the previous point, the third tip is to try out boosting you and your partner's arousal through some massaging.

The expert says that 'being sensual and intimate with your partner is key' to keeping the flame alive.

She says: "Adding massage with oils to your sex process can be a great way to explore each other’s bodies and create a deeper connection."

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Sexy talk

A great pairing with foreplay, some sexy talk can help build even more tension and boost arousal before getting into things.

Now, it may not be for everyone, so Hope suggests expressing your desires and what you want your partner to do/what you want to do to them instead.

"You can get in the mood by telling your partner all the things you are going to do to them and what you want them to do to you," she says.

"Communicating about your sexual desires not only enhances arousal but builds comfort and trust between you both."

Desensitiser creams and gels

OK - so you've extended your foreplay and tried out some sensual massage but about doing the actual deed itself?

Well, Hope suggests trying out certain gels and creams to help reduce the sensations you feel during sex, which usually increases the time it takes for you to reach orgasm.

Naturally, however, your use of such products will inevitably affect your partner's sensitivity.

"When you feel ready to finish you may want to wipe off the cream or gel to help your final climax," Hope advises.

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Take mini breaks

A tried-and-tested way to make sex last longer is by simply pausing throughout the act.

The stopping and starting helps cool things down while also building the sexual tension which could end up boiling over into a pretty intense orgasm.

"You can have little breaks in between intercourse to kiss, cuddle and rub each other," Hope points out. "This calms down the excitement for a bit allowing you to still be intimate with each other whilst prolonging sex."

Masturbate before sex

And last but by no means least, Hope says, is masturbating before sex.

Hope says that, for men, masturbating shortly before intercourse will help to delay ejaculation during sexual intercourse.

If that's not for you then the expert explains: "You can practise penis-root massage where you rub near the base of your penis, up and down and/or in circular motion as stimulating the root of the penis prior can help you to last longer during intercourse."

So - there you have it!

Topics: Sex and Relationships, Life, Hacks

Rhiannon Ingle

Rhiannon Ingle is a Journalist at LADbible Group. She graduated from the University of Manchester in 2021 in English Literature. Alongside her studies, she was the Lifestyle Editor of The Mancunian, the largest student newspaper in the United Kingdom. Her favourite topics to write about include sex and relationships, bizarre lifestyle trends and all things travel.