Woman left confused after sleeping with her cousin at family reunion
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Life
Ali Condon
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Topics: Sex and Relationships, Life
An anonymous woman has confessed that she 'needs' to be with her cousin after sleeping with him at a family reunion.
The poster admitted that she has had a sort of 'sexual tension' with her cousin since she was 16 years old.
After her father passed away, she says she hasn't seen much of that side of her family, but after bumping into him at a family gathering, she decided to finally go for it.
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Even though this man is her father's brother's son, the woman insisted that the family aren't close at all - though the blood link is still very much there.
"I don’t know what I want from him, but I feel like I need him in my life," she admitted to OK!.
"I don’t know if I’m mentally stable enough for the fall out it might cause if anyone found out what we did though."
After a few drinks at the family reunion, she was finally bold enough to approach him with a proposition, and her cousin admitted that he felt the same way.
The long and short of it is: this woman and her cousin wound up sleeping together.
As if the territory weren't dodgy enough, she confessed that she now has even stronger feelings for her cousin and wants to be with him.
Writing in to columnist Lalala LetMeExplain, the anonymous woman hoped for some reassurance that she wasn't the only one who had been through something like this.
But when Lalala wrote back, she told the woman that, if she was looking for permission to pursue a relationship with her cousin, only she could give herself that.
The columnist was understandably pretty hesitant to encourage the relationship, although there is no legal restriction on the marriage of first cousins in the UK and Ireland, it is not a common practice.
She also pointed out that, although studies have shown that the risk of genetic defects in babies born from incest was the same level as that of babies born to women over 40, that risk is still very much there.
Urging the woman to consider whether she was ready to be judged by people both in and outside of her family, the dating expert suggested that she should seek therapy, especially if she doesn't think she could handle the fallout.
She noted that a therapist could also help her to figure out why she had this attraction to her cousin, suggesting that it might be linked to the absence of her late father, or just the idea of pursuing something forbidden.