Nikki Glaser's 'cheating' kink explained as expert reveals surprising relationship benefit
Nikki Glaser has certainly sparked a lot of conversations with her latest X-rated relationship admission.
During an appearance on Wednesday's (8 April) episode of Alex Cooper’s Call Her Daddy podcast, the American comedian and actress, 41, revealed that she likes it' when her boyfriend hooks up with other people.
Now, for a lot of people, this would be their worst nightmare and a relationship-ending offence, so Glaser's unexpected opinion has left people shocked.
Glaser said during the episode: "In a relationship, I don't really care if my boyfriend were to hook up [with others]. But that is not a two-way street.
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"I'm not someone who likes to hook up when I'm in a relationship. I don't really care about that. But I don't care if someone else were to. In fact, I kind of like it."
The Golden Globes host is currently dating TV writer and producer, Chris Convy, whom she first met in 2013 when he produced her MTV show Nikki and Sara Live.
She admitted that when they first met, she 'would always ask him about past hookups and girlfriends and how they got together'.
Glaser recalled: “Like, ‘How did you first know you liked each other?’ I loved that," adding that it made her 'horny to think about him doing that with other girls'.
She continued: "So, I’d ask about all of his girlfriends or anyone he had hooked up with, all the details about it, and it would really be like a foreplay for me. I would get revved up talking about it."
The two rules are that Convy follows - he needs to explain their unique arrangement to the other women involved and has to refrain from kissing them.
Glaser said: “There have been some interesting things that were fun for me to hear about and experience, and fun for him too. Sometimes I'm too busy to be really sexy, so I'm like, ‘Go out and get some attention.’”
What do the experts say?
There are various types of non-monogamy that Glaser's situation fits into. Hotwifing, for example, is when a married couple agrees that the wife can have sexual experiences with other people, with the husband's knowledge and support - but in this case, of course, it's the other way around.
Meanwhile, a cuckold is someone who takes pleasure in watching their partner have sex with someone else, with both, surprisingly, having a few benefits.
Sex educator and author, Adreena Winters, told Cosmopolitan that a lot of men and women enjoy 'hotwifing' because of the 'honesty and liberation' that comes with it.
She explained: "Women’s sexual needs are often overlooked or sidelined in relationships, and for some men, there’s a lot of pressure to perform or live up to certain expectations.
"Opening things up allows both partners to breathe. The wife gets to explore her full sexuality, and the husband can still feel connected and involved in her pleasure without the pressure to be everything for her."
Hotwifing is about 'shared pleasure and mutual consent, where both partners enjoy the experience of the wife being desired and fulfilled,' while cuckolding 'introduces a power exchange,' according to the expert.
"The woman takes control, and the man’s pleasure often becomes secondary or even irrelevant. He might find satisfaction in service, chastity, or denial," she said, "The distinction matters because not every couple is drawn to that power-based aspect. Hotwifing can exist purely as an expression of sexual freedom and connection between equals."
Jess O’Reilly, PhD, host of the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast, told Men's Health that other reasons for enjoying 'hotwifing' are compersion, which is the term for deriving pleasure from a partner’s pleasure, and power, which is knowing their partner is desired by others and still chooses them.
'The ultimate catalyst for reclaiming your spark'
Gemma Nice, sex and relationships expert at condoms.uk, told Tyla: "When we move away from traditional monogamy, the societal worries in our brains often go into overdrive.
"But, if you do the work, it can be the ultimate catalyst for reclaiming your spark within your relationship and within yourself."
The expert explained how non-monogamy allows you to 'stop expecting your partner to be your everything'.
She explained: "When the pressure is off, the roommate syndrome, which you may have got to within your relationship often vanishes.
"You start seeing your partner as an individual again, which reignites desire and reawakens your sensuality. It forces you to communicate with a level of pure honesty that most couples never touch because it forces you to be open, honest, raw, and real with each other."
While Claire Rénier, relationship expert at dating app happn, outlined that one huge benefit is that 'a successful non monogamous relationship requires an incredibly strong level of trust and communication'.
Essentially, you both have to be amazing communicators to make it work, which is a great thing to have in a pairing anyway.
She added, "Non-monogamy also allows those involved to seek intellectual, physical, or emotional fulfillment from others, without getting rid of their primary partner, and it can even be a way to reignite passion within your relationship. However, this can only come with agreement from all involved."
Topics: Nikki Glaser, Sex and Relationships, Celebrity, Life, Real Life
Madison Burgess