Topics: Reddit, Sex and Relationships, Wedding, Parenting, Money
A woman has sparked a huge online debate after revealing her plans for her husband in the event of her death.
It's everybody's worst nightmare - having to think about how your other half would survive without you, should anything go wrong.
And while it's even more hellish to imagine the person you love moving on with somebody else after your passing, it's something most of us accept as the best thing for them.
Though it seems not everybody is on the same page.
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An unnamed woman took to Reddit's infamous 'Am I the A**hole' thread to pose the question: "AITA if I die before my husband and then he gets remarried, then I want half of my retirement fund to go to our children and he keeps the other half?"
The post, which has now been removed, read: "Right now we share accounts and all our finances and everything.
"If I happen to die before him, I told him he would get everything. 100%.
"But, if he decides to get remarried, I wanted half of my retirement fund to go to him then half to our children - whenever that might be; 1 day after my death or 20 years after my death."
She continued: "I said his new wife should have her own retirement plan for him to share. If she doesn’t, that’s not my problem.
"He should have picked a second wife that was financially responsible.
"I’ve worked hard for decades to build up my retirement, I don’t want his new wife to take advantage of all that I’ve worked for and use it up and leave nothing for my children."
People were quick to jump in and give their opinions.
One person responded: "NTA. Good for you to be looking after your priorities (your children).
"Can you look into a will that puts half your money into trusts for them and have someone other than your husband manage the trusts?"
The woman then responded: "Exactly. I want our kids to get something when I/we pass. If we need all our retirement for our care because of sickness etc, then that’s different. But if there’s anything left over, I want them to have it too."
Another person responded: "I think the half should go to your children regardless of if he remarries or not. Does he not have a retirement of his own?"
While a third said: "She is utterly ridiculous. If she wants her kids to have 50% of her accounts, then make them beneficiaries. Sounds like she just wants to control him and ensure he doesn’t move on."
