Goldie Hawn shares why she refuses to marry Kurt Russell after 43 years
Topics: Celebrity, Wedding, Sex and Relationships
Jen Thomas
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Topics: Celebrity, Wedding, Sex and Relationships
Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell have been together for over 43 years, but have never married.
The A-list couple are one of the strongest in Hollywood, after they first met in the 1960s on the set of The One and Only, Genuine, Original Family Band.
It was another 15 years before they worked together again, when Russell auditioned for the film Swing Shift opposite Hawn.
They started dating on the set of that movie, and in July 1986, they had a son, Wyatt Russell.
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Hawn already had two children, Oliver and Kate Hudson, and Russell had a son, son, Boston.
Their relationship has been a successful one, but Hawn has been vocal about her decision not to marry.
She told Entertainment Tonight: "We thought that by getting married that was actually going to take something from both of us that we didn't want," Hawn said.
"We want to choose each other every day.
"I don't like ownership, you know? And I must say that I think Kurt feels the same way. I thought if I was a bird, and then someone put me in a cage, then they leave the door open, I'll never fly out. If they close the door on me, I'd probably get rid of all my feathers and become a bird with no feathers."
"I think that's one of the areas where we all have to feel free to be who we are, and think the way we do, and for those of us who are, basically, want to have a happy life, I think you want to be happy with yourself," she added.
She later told PEOPLE: "Kurt and I are just living our life together. We've got great kids. It's the right match.”
Hawn was married twice before, first to Gus Trikonis, and then to Bill Hudson, who fathered her first two children.
That marriage broke down a year before she met Russell, and told CNN about the aftermath.
Host Chris Wallace asked Hawn why she and Russell had never tied the knot, to which the star replied: "Why should we be? Isn't that a better question?"
When it doesn't work out, it ends up to be big business," Hawn said. "It's always ugly. Somebody actually has to take a look and say, 'How many divorces actually are fun? How many divorces actually don't cost money? How many divorces actually make you hate the person more than you did before? How many divorces have hurt children?'"
She also said she likes having the option to choose, and knowing that they want to be together, rather than a contract keeping either of them there.
"I like the idea that I can wake up in the morning and make decisions every day if I want to be here, I mean relationships are hard," she stressed.
"They're not always easy. There's all kinds of hurdles we go through. There's things that we believe in, things we don't believe in, we agree on."
So I think ultimately staying independent with independent thinking is important, so you can hold on to yourself, and you can actually have that feeling."
Her daughter, Kate Hudson, revealed she learned a lot about co-parenting from her mother.
Speaking on the Divorce Sucks podcast with Laura Wasser, she opened up about her relationships with ex-husband Chris Robinson, and her ex-fiancé Matt Bellamy, who she shares children with.
"I think the one thing that I learned from my mom is that no matter what you're feeling and no matter what — when I see my friends talking s*** about their ex-spouses in front of their kids, I get so upset because they don't recognize how much that affects their child and how resentful their child will become of them," Hudson said.
"No matter what, I never heard a bad word about my father."