With the cost-of-living-crisis continuing and the price of energy ever-increasing, you could be forgiven for hearing the phrase 'warm sex' and thinking it's to do with cosying up this winter.
Or, maybe doing it in a sauna, or under lots of blankets.
It turns out that 'warm sex' isn't really linked to the temperature at all.
It's said to be the latest trend in the bedroom and many social media creators have been posting about it and recommending people try it for themselves this winter.
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Typically, when you think of bedroom activities, the usual phrase is 'hot sex', rather than warm.
Warm suggests lukewarm or tepid, which would be a less-than-flattering phrase to hear from a partner.
So, what is the 'warm sex' trend all about really, and should you give it a try?
What is 'warm sex'?
The good news is it doesn't involve ramping up the thermostat, so your bank balance will be happy.
'Warm sex' is being used in comparison to 'hot sex', which is usually seen as fast paced and frantic.
The 'warm' version is all about intimacy and emotion, as opposed to the 'hot' variant which places penetration and orgasm at the top of the list.
It's all about a slower pace rather than being animalistic and fast about it, and it's definitely not lacking in passion.
'Warm sex' is about taking your time and really getting to explore each other, and not rushing.
How do you have 'warm sex'?
The key to 'warm sex' is all about setting the mood and having the right atmosphere.
That can been dimming the lights, lighting a few candles, putting on some nice music.
Nothing loud or fast, and no clinical bright lights making you feel like you're at the gynaecologists.
Connection is key here, with communication being the most important thing, as well as another 'c' word - cuddling.
Embracing your partner is important, and helps to build intimacy.
'Warm sex' is less about the end result
This new trend is less about being goal-oriented and reaching completion, and more about foreplay and taking your time with each other.
It's more about exploration and figuring out what the other likes, and, well, having a nice time doing so.
Whereas the 'hot' version is about having as many orgasms as possible, whereas 'warm' you might not even have one but still have a lovely time.
It reduces the pressure on you and your partner, and puts the focus instead about learning and feeling closer to one another and helps to build intimacy.
What's not to love about that.
Topics: Dating, Life, Sex and Relationships, Dating trends, Advice
Jen Thomas