‘Virgin bride’ who waited 40 years to have sex only to find out she couldn’t reveals her husband's surprising reaction
A woman dubbed the 'virgin bride' has revealed her husband's reaction after she 'saved herself' for him for 40 years only to find out on her wedding night that she couldn't have sex.
On the eve of her special day, Sarah Jones-Green, 44, found out that she had a rare health condition which has made her unable to do the deed with her now-husband, Martin Green, 44.
Sarah, who was brought up in a Christian household, wanted to wait until marriage to have sex as she explained that physical intimacy was 'something special' and she didn't want to lose her virginity to a one-night stand or casual fling.
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While describing herself as a 'modern woman', who doesn't judge others for anything they choose to do, Sarah, a marketer from Greenwich, London, explained that she couldn't see herself losing her virginity to a man she wasn't married to.
"I find it something so special," she said. "I didn't want to give myself to just anyone - someone I could eventually break up with or in a one-night stand."
Luckily for Sarah, she found Mr Right in 2020 at the age of 40 who was 'patient and kind' about her wishes.
She met Martin on the dating app Bumble, and the pair tied the knot some four years later in September of last year.
The pair spoke about sex before their first date, with Sarah explaining that she wanted to be transparent with him and didn't intend on having sex with anyone until marriage.
Sarah said that Martin was 'patient and kind' and was fine with waiting - while they dated for four years before their nuptials.
"I waited four years to have sex with him," Sarah said.
"Martin has been so caring the entire time - we had the discussion while we were still talking on Bumble and he was so sweet and fine with it."
Opening up about the worrying symptom she experienced, Sarah explained that she and Martin first attempted sex was on their wedding night.
Sarah says she knew immediately it wasn't going to work after feeling an 'aching' sensation which, understandably, meant that the excitement quickly disappeared.
She then became upset and felt 'abnormal', and she wanted to get it sorted as quickly as possible, so made an appointment with her GP later in the week.
"I wanted to get it seen to straight away," she said. "We just couldn't work out how to have sex without pain - Martin was fine, but I was really frustrated.
"I remembered my mum had the same issue on her wedding night, and wondered if her problem was hereditary."
Her GP later performed a physical examination, and found Sarah has a condition called a microperforate hymen - a condition where the hymen is very thick, but has a single, small opening.
Sarah is now on the waiting list for a hymenectomy - a surgical procedure to remove extra tissue from the hymen - and says being able to have sex would make her feel 'complete'. Her first consultation is in August.
She added: "I'm a virgin bride - and I don't want to be - having sex would make me feel like a 'normal' newlywed.
"I didn't have any inkling about this condition before, I literally only realised something was wrong when Martin and I tried to have sex for the first time.
"I'd waited such a long time - I just wanted to experience what everyone else has."
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Health, Real Life, True Life, Women's Health, Wedding
Rhiannon Ingle