Woman sparks outrage after telling fiancé his 15-year-old son can’t attend their wedding
She said she didn't want to feel like she had to 'babysit' anyone on her big day
A woman has sparked outrage online after telling her fiancé his 15-year-old son can’t attend their wedding.
Guest lists for weddings will often cause a bit of drama, whether it’s your best friend from uni complaining her boyfriend of two weeks can’t come, or your mum forcing you to invite some distant relative you’ve never actually met.
Usually, however, with immediate family things tend to be fairly straightforward – or so you’d think...
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One man recently took to Reddit to share the unthinkable quandary he found himself in after his bride-to-be admitted she didn’t want his teenage son there on their big day.
He explained: “So I recently proposed to my long-term girlfriend, and we are planning for a wedding in summer next year, everything is still very early stages.
“My fiancée has expressed that she wants a child-free wedding, which I am all down for but I want to make one expectation, my son (15M), I had him from a previous relationship and we have evenly split custody of him.”
The Reddit user, writing in the ‘Am I The A**hole’ forum, said his partner had ‘gotten along great’ with his son until this point, having spent ‘days out as a family’ and enjoyed watching the teen play ice hockey.
"She's even taken him out on fun days just the two of them,” he said.
However, when he brought up that he wanted to ‘make an exception to the no kids rule’ for his son, the partner ‘shot the idea down straight away’, saying she didn’t want anyone under 16 there as she didn’t want anyone to feel like babysitters that day.
“I told her that no one would have to babysit him, he’s 15 and she knows he's well-behaved and a generally quiet kid,” the man continued.
“She then changed her reasoning and asked why I wanted my old family and life on the day I was supposed to making a commitment to her and our new family, I told her while I will be making a commitment to her, my son will still very much be my son and my family.
“She then equated it to wanting my ex at our wedding, which I do not and never asked.”
The groom told his partner that he didn’t care about the ‘aesthetics’ of the wedding and that she could pick out everything from the food and music to the dress, but he just wanted his close family there as the ‘only ultimatum’ he had for the big day.
“She started calling me controlling by giving me an ultimatum and said I had initially agreed to a child-free wedding and now I’m ‘gaslighting’ her,” he said, adding that his fiancée called him a ‘d**k’ and is no longer speaking to him.
Many other Reddit users had nothing but support for the man, with one commenting: "Wow wow wow. She doesn’t want your own child to come to your own wedding. And not a crying baby or a terrible two, but a fifteen year old, a kid that will be old enough to drive next year-when the wedding is???"
Someone else wrote: "It's appalling that she compared wanting his CHILD there to wanting his ex there. She in no way sees that boy as future family. Horrible woman."
Many even called on the original poster not to go ahead with the wedding, saying her behaviour marked a huge 'red flag'.
Another added: "This is a massive red flag waving. Car dealership size red flag flapping in his face. She doesn't want his son to be a part of their life."
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Wedding, Reddit
Jess Hardiman