Your wedding day is meant to be one of the happiest days of your life, but one wedding planner has noticed a pattern over the years.
She has noticed four key signs in the run-up to the big day, which she says are pretty good indicators of whether the marriage will last.
After all, it's about the marriage rather than the wedding.
Robin Yarusso shared her thoughts on TikTok, and needless to say, it's ruffled a few feathers with some very happily married couples who insist they're the exceptions to these rules.
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She says she has planned 100 weddings and around 30 proposals and says these four things have come up time and time again.
Everyone knows weddings can be stressful, with all of that time, expense, and planning coming down to one day.
Here are the four signs to keep an eye out for if you, a friend, or a loved one is due to get hitched.
Cake smashing
This is the big one, says Robin.
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"The first thing is smashing cake in each other's face," says Robin.
"If you smash cake - I don't know what it represents - but for some reason none of my brides and grooms that did that are still together," warned the planner.
Not everyone agrees though, and this point upset people most.
"Ummm we cake smashed...I've been married 31 years. Additionally, I'm a wedding coordinator/planner. Not all of these ring true!" insisted one.
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"Cake smashers here - we celebrated 40 years on 9/14," insisted another.
A few vouched for Robin, though: "My dad smashed cake in my mom's face after she asked him not to...they've been divorced for 20 yrs."
"My new husband badly hurt my nose and ruined my make-up doing this, even though I begged him not to, we divorced three months later," confessed another bride.
Budget disagreements
It's easy to let the cost of things run away with you for the big day.
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After all, you so much as breathe the word 'wedding' and the price of everything quadruples because of the demand, time and pressure involved.
Robin says: "If you are not respectful of the budget but the other person is," that's a big warning sign.
"If I have a bride that's calling me on the side, being like 'let's add this to the flowers, don't tell Jim, let's do that', the 'don't tells' - those people end up getting divorced.
Poor family boundaries
"If your mother, or the groom's mother, whichever one it is, if that mother is overstepping where she shouldn't and her child doesn't check her, it usually leads to problems in the marriage," warns Robin.
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It leads to resentment and a feeling that the other doesn't come first.
"Funny, it's always the mother who oversteps," added one commenter.
"My MIL was vile, but fortunately hubby stepped up, we don't speak to them anymore," added one bride on Instagram.
A 'checked out' partner
The last one is a big one, says Robin.
"Lastly, it's the husband-to-be that doesn't care about the wedding," she says.
"And I don't mean the 'oh honey, it's your big day, pick whatever flowers you want', I mean when his one job was to pick the DJ and we're a week before the wedding and he hasn't gotten that done," explains Robin.
"That husband is completely checked out."
Another wedding supplier agrees with all of Robin's points: "As someone who works on the tuxedo side of weddings, absolutely spot on. We don’t get to see the actual day, but the signs leading up to it are 100% correct."
"I’ve done 500+ weddings in my career. She’s spot on," added another.
One person had a simpler suggestion: "People should avoid all the wedding drama and just elope."
Topics: Wedding, Sex and Relationships, TikTok
Jen Thomas