‘Shallowing’ is the intense bedroom trend that can help boost your sex life
Topics: Life, Sex and Relationships, Advice
Rhiannon Ingle
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Topics: Life, Sex and Relationships, Advice
Whether you're single and ready to mingle or happily loved-up in a long-term relationship, most people are open to tips and tricks on how to boost your sex life.
Now, we already know all about the seven best aphrodisiac scents to get you in the mood as well as the seven things that apparently make you 'instantly irresistible' to potential partners, but there's another turn of phrase you'll be wanting to add to your dictionaries.
Referred to as 'shallowing', this bedroom trend is said to help couples out big time when it comes to the bedroom department.
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OK - so we already know all about the importance of prioritising orgasms in 2024 and have got all the best tips and tricks on how to last longer between the sheets, but what on earth is 'shallowing'?
Well, it's a form of sexual play that involves light stimulation around the entrance to the vagina.
No partner? No problem!
While this can be done with your partner gently entering the vagina with either the tip of their penis, finger, lips, tongue or even a sex toy - it can also be enjoyed solo-style.
If you hadn't already guessed it, it's called 'shallowing' as the penetrative touch is focused just inside the entrance of the vagina - so a shallow entrance.
The act of 'shallowing' can, apparently, bring about some pretty incredible orgasms as the vaginal entrance is packed with specific nerve endings that can intensify female pleasure.
So - how do you go about bringing up 'shallowing' to your partner?
Well, sex and relationship expert Tracey Cox advises you 'just make it part of everyday conversation'.
She explained: "If we were talking about anything else today, you'd say, 'I was listening to Woman's Hour and they were talking about this. What do you think?' Just have that conversation.
"Say, 'They did a really interesting study about how to make penetration more pleasurable for women and this particular technique really spoke to me, and I think I kind of do that already, but...' And then lead into the conversation from there."
Tracey continued: "Once you get passed those first few minutes, talking about sex is actually quite easy after that.
"Maybe it might be a bit uncomfortable with your partner who says, 'But hang on a minute, you've always been fine just with penetration without any extra stimulation?'.
"If you don't want to say, 'Well actually, I haven't been the whole of the time I've been with you' - just say, 'Well, I think my body's changing, I seem to need different things now'."
Communication is key, folks!