Sex expert explains why ‘shallowing’ could benefit your relationship in the bedroom

A sex expert is encouraging people to take part in a bedroom trend known as 'shallowing' that could help boost many relationships out there.

At a time where we're living busier lives than ever before, we get it - spicing up your sex life can place last on the list of priorities.

After a long day, sometimes prioritising the best night's sleep of your life feels like the most desirable thing to do. But if you are looking to turn things up a notch in the bedroom, look no further than this sex trend.

According to those that have taken part, the act of 'shallowing' can, apparently, bring about some pretty incredible orgasms.

And the best news? It can be done with or without a partner.

The sex trend could spice up your bedroom antics (Flashpop/Getty stock images)

'Shallowing' is a form of sexual play that involves light stimulation around the entrance to the vagina.

It can be done with your partner gently entering the vagina with either the tip of their penis, finger, lips, tongue, or a sex toy - but it can also be enjoyed solo-style.

But why does it feel so good?

According to the experts, the opening of the vagina is packed with specific nerve endings that can intensify female pleasure.

Sex and relationships expert Tracey Cox spoke with the BBC's Woman's Hour to explain how trends like shallowing can boost relationships and their sex lives.

Shallowing is a great way to focus on a woman's pleasure (Getty Stock Image)

"Women still continue to believe that there's something wrong with them if they don't orgasm just through ‘normal intercourse’," Cox said. "And by that, I mean traditional thrusting, which is quite frankly pathetically ineffective at stimulating the clitoris."

"The amount of women I speak to and explain, 'only 20% of women can orgasm through penetration without extra clitoral stimulation'… You can see them thinking, 'yeah, but there's something wrong with me, because whenever I watch TV or movies, or porn, women have intercourse orgasms no problem at all'.

"Or ‘my partner says, 'well, Susie before you didn't have a problem'. Some people just don't accept that it is difficult for women to orgasm through penetration."

She added: "Women across the spectrum of life, whether they are in their 20s, their 40s, newly partnered, unpartnered, multi-partnered, every woman is on a sexual pleasure journey."

While these kind of activities sound great on paper, bringing the topic up to a potential partner can feel slightly daunting, so Cox also advises to 'just make it part of everyday conversation'.

The activity can be done with or without a partner (Daly and Newton/Getty stock images)

She explained: "If we were talking about anything else today, you'd say, 'I was listening to Woman's Hour and they were talking about this. What do you think?' Just have that conversation.

"Say, 'They did a really interesting study about how to make penetration more pleasurable for women and this particular technique really spoke to me, and I think I kind of do that already, but...' And then lead into the conversation from there."

Tracey continued: "Once you get passed those first few minutes, talking about sex is actually quite easy after that.

"Maybe it might be a bit uncomfortable with your partner who says, 'But hang on a minute, you've always been fine just with penetration without any extra stimulation?'.

"If you don't want to say, 'Well actually, I haven't been the whole of the time I've been with you' - just say, 'Well, I think my body's changing, I seem to need different things now'."

After all, communication is always key.