Five questions you should never ask during sex

Social media has given us many wonderful things, but lately people have been sharing some pretty weird stuff from the bedroom.

It can be a hotbed of tips and tricks for how to please your partner, with one trend telling people 'what to say during' the deed.

Off the back of that though, a new trend has arisen where people are sharing the things you absolutely should never say or do while getting intimate with someone.

Let's face it, there are plenty of awful things which should be avoided, but somehow they managed to narrow it down to just five, and experts have broken down why they're a very bad idea.

Whether it's a long-term partner, a friend with benefits or a one-night thing, these are five of the things you should never say or do under the covers with someone.

There's an array of things you absolutely shouldn't say between the sheets (Getty Stock)

Are you almost done?

This question will (unsurprisingly) send the message that you're not into it.

Nobody wants to feel like their partner is watching the clock or waiting for it to be over.

Annabelle Knight is a sex and relationship expert at Lovehoney, and said it piles on the pressure, regardless of gender, too: "'Regardless of gender identity, performance can be a real source of anxiety."

"Asking if your partner is almost done can not only make them feel rushed and pressured, but also unappreciated or self-conscious. Putting your partner under pressure can make it difficult for them to stay relaxed and fully enjoy the experience, and can even delay their 'finish' further. Sex should be about mutual pleasure and connection, rather than solely reaching an end goal."

Leigh Norén is a Sex Therapist & Coach, and said if you find your partner is taking too long, instead of being critical you could take proactive action to help them, by turning up the heat with things you know they really like: "It usually makes it go faster."

Why are you breathing so heavily?

This is a really hurtful thing to say, after all, sex is often hugely physical - and tiring!

"It’s giving "something is wrong with you" vibes and that’s never sexy, nor is it kind," said Norén.

"It’s also bound to pull you out of the moment, making you focus on something you’re doing wrong rather than something you should be wholeheartedly experiencing.'

'Breathing a little bit deeper and harder during sex – or indeed any kind of physical exercise – is completely normal... drawing attention to it can create unnecessary tension and disrupt the flow," she warns.

However, if it's out of the ordinary, you should be mindful it could be a health problem.

Knight said: "It’s important to know if it’s a normal response," so maybe check how your partner is feeling, kindly.

You can really hurt someone's feelings by saying the wrong thing (Getty Stock)

A look of disgust

This one isn't about words - but we all know how much more painful actions can be.

Nonverbal communication can be even more heartbreaking, with Knight saying this one is 'the worst one of the lot.'

"When you’re in the heat of the moment, being on the receiving end of a look of disgust when you’re at your most vulnerable can even damage the relationship. It can instantly make someone feel rejected or undesirable, leading to emotional distress, a lack of trust, and a breakdown in communication."

Feeling disgusting or unwanted can put an end to desire, and that's no good for anybody.

"It’s always better to tell your partner you’d like to do something else (gently) or to simply take control and switch to something else," said Norén.

Encouraging or praising things you do like is a much better move instead.

Is this your first time?

This one is brutal, and actually pretty cruel as it's usually said when you don't know each other all that well.

"It definitely signals you’re not impressed," Norén said.

Knight agrees: "Not only is this question inappropriate, but it’s also unnecessary – it’s almost guaranteed that you will have had this conversation with a new partner beforehand anyway.

"For someone who is less experienced, putting the spotlight on this can make them feel incredibly uncomfortable, and even infantilise them. If you have questions about your partner’s history – which also isn’t your business – it’s far better to discuss it beforehand in an open and respectful way."

An ill-thought or cruel comment can be devastating (Getty Stock)

Is this amount of sweat normal?

This one falls into the same kind of camp as the heavy breathing query.

It can cause intense feelings of shame, or make them feel incredibly self conscious about their body.

"Similar to the comment about breathing, sweating is not something a person can help during physical exertion," Knight said.

"It’s completely natural, and arguably means they are putting in a good amount of effort! Saying this can make your partner feel uncomfortable, self-conscious or embarrassed, or as though there’s something wrong with them.'

Needless to say, you shouldn't give any of these a try.