Topics: Barack Obama, Michelle Obama, Politics, Sex and Relationships, US News, Advice
Michelle Obama has issued relationship advice to fans in a brand-new podcast interview and her comments have sparked quite the heated debate online.
The former First Lady, who has been married to former POTUS Barack Obama since 1992, sat down on her IMO podcast alongside Craig Robinson where she shared her thoughts on couples moving in together shortly after dating.
"If it's early in the relationship, you shouldn't be moving in, first of all," she explained. "I don't care how much money he has or doesn't have. Like you don't know him yet."
Michelle continued: "Maybe this will be controversial, but I think you can have deep 'like' at first sight, but love to me in most instances, 'cause there are always exceptions, it takes time to fully have somebody reveal themselves to you over time, to know whether or not your affections and your feelings stand the test of time.
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"There are so many tests you need in a relationship. But recommend, as always, take some time! Make moving in way down the line."
As we say, the internet appeared to be split right down the middle, with one Reddit user claiming: "You truly get to know someone when you live together. Moving in together really does test a relationship for longevity, and it will either make or break it."
"Yeah, I disagree with her advice tbh (once you’ve been dating for at least a year). If the relationship ends, yeah, it can be awkward and uncomfortable. But that’s life. You learn and you move on," penned a second, while a third despaired: "We're broke Michelle."
A fourth quipped: "Yeah I don't think even Michelle Obama understands this. I've been in the profoundly sh*tty situation of not being able to end a relationship because I simply would not have been able to afford to live on my own. I didn't have parents or anyone I can just move in with."
Others, however, couldn't have agreed with Michelle's words of wisdom more, with a one defender hitting back: "She didn’t say to live alone. Your situation is not what she was talking about. She said don’t move in too quickly, that’s not the same as breaking up with someone you love with. Unless you moved in too quickly, and then broke up. Which is an unfortunate possible outcome of moving in too quickly."
A a second urged: "If your #1 reason to move in is to save money, it’s the wrong decision."
"Yeah. If you need someone to share a rent with, try to find a roommate. That's better than bringing romance into a mix," recommended a third.
A fourth echoed: "Don't move in to save on rent... but move in to get to know the person. You miss red flags while dating that you just can't ignore when you're living together. There's nowhere to go and hide things or cool down."
"Yes, moving in together 'to save $$$' is the worst reason for a couple. It should be because you hate being apart," maintained another.
And a final Redditor added: "You don’t move in to get to know each other… you move in together because you’ve gotten to know each other already and based on what you’ve learned you want to explore the next step which is cohabitation.
"Then you continue assessing those flags and issues."
Where do you stand on the debate?
