
A woman revealed she gifted her husband a very special present for his 40th birthday, having agreed to take part in a threesome.
Author Pamela Druckerman, 53, spoke about the experience in her novel There Are No Grown-Ups: A Midlife Coming-Of-Age Story, where she explored all aspects of turning 40.
âWhat are the modern forties, and what do we know once we reach them?,â a synopsis for the book asks.
âWhat makes someone a âgrown-upâ anyway? And why didnât anyone warn us that weâd get cellulite on our arms?â
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Billed as âpart frank memoir, part hilarious investigation of daily lifeâ, the book â originally published in 2018 â speaks of the âin-between decadeâ when âEveryone you meet looks a little bit familiarâ, âYouâre matter-of-fact about chin hairâ, âYou can no longer wear anything ironicallyâ, âThereâs at least one sport your doctor forbids you to playâ, âYou become impatient while scrolling down to your year of birthâ, âYour parents have stopped trying to change youâ, âYou donât want to be with the cool people anymore; you want to be with your peopleâ, âYou realize that everyone is winging it, some just do it more confidentlyâ and âYou know that itâs ok if you donât like jazzâ.

In an excerpt from the memoir, shared in the Daily Mail this week, Druckerman talked about her decision to have a threesome with her husband to celebrate his 40th.
She said: âThe question that arises on my husband's birthday is always the same: 'What do you get for the man who has everything?' He isn't a shopper. He once declared he has enough trousers to last the rest of his life.
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âSo for his 40th, I decide to buy him a vintage watch. It would declare to the world that â despite his tattered sweaters â he's an employed adult.
âBut when I mention the watch, he says that what he really wants isn't a good, but a service: a threesome with me and another woman.
âI'm not exactly shocked. He'd mentioned this fantasy before, as had practically every man I'd ever dated. I'd always brushed it off with an eye roll and an 'in your dreams'.
âThe idea wasn't unappealing, but it seemed logistically and emotionally complicated.â
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This time, she decided to âspontaneously say yesâ, admitting she felt âdaunted by the price tag on a Rolexâ anyway.
âWe agree on it in principle, but the idea is so exotic that for a few weeks it just sits there,â Druckerman said.
They decided to ârule out advertising for a third party online, since that seems like an open call for an STDâ, feeling the ideal candidate would be a âsexy acquaintanceâ of theirs.

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However, one âfriend of a friendâ ended up turning down the idea, and Druckerman found herself turning to the internet, settling on a divorced mum in her late 40s known as âNâ.
âA threesome is so, well, sexual,â Druckerman went on.
âIâd focused so much on the organization and the catering, I had almost forgotten that we were going to be naked.â
She said after about 40 minutes of âmoaningâ sheâd âhad enoughâ.
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âI wonder whether I might check my email,â Druckerman continued.
âN is quite beautiful, but seeing versions of my own lady parts on her feels too familiar. I realize that part of what appeals to me about men is that their bodies are different.â
She added that her husband continued to have sex with N for another 20 minutes, before eventually âtiring themselves outâ.
âThereâs a sweet moment at the end when the three of us lie together under the covers, with the birthday boy in the middle,â she added.
âHeâs beaming. Iâll later get a series of heartfelt thank-you notes, saying it was as good as heâd hoped.â
Topics:Â Sex and Relationships