A marriage therapist has revealed one of the most common complaints she hears from women regarding their husbands.
Watch the video below:
Minnesota-based marriage therapist Corrin Voeller, who posts as @corrinthecounselor, keeps her 129,000 TikTok followers in the know with tips for married couples.
Advert
In one popular clip, that has been 1.5 million times since Corrin posted it in September last year, she breaks down the difference between passive responsibility and active responsibility.
An example of active responsibility is looking around the house for chores that need to be done whereas passive responsibility describes when a spouse waits to be told what needs to be done in the house.
Both concepts extend beyond household chores into other areas like childcare.
Corrin explains what she often hears from women and delves deeper into the difference between both terms.
Women in the comments instantly knew exactly what Corrin was referring to and used the video as a way to express their frustrations.
Advert
One woman was glad to hear that she’s not the only person who has to deal with a partner who shows passive responsibility. “OMG it’s so exhausting!!!! And glad I’m not alone dealing with this with their spouses.”
Another woman commented: “I ain’t your mother! I’m your partner. HELP!”
While a third wife wrote: “The only active responsibility I give my husband is trash. The rest I will more than happy ask him to do. "Took him three days to do the dishes and I was already p*ssed it wasn’t done by the second. I’m not one to say anything so I get more quiet and he seen that, then he started to do the dishes but tossed everything around. Made me more angry.”
Someone else came to the conclusion: “I’m convinced men just are not as much of critical thinkers as we are. That’s why it’s so important to explain and communicate with your partner”.
However some commenters tried to encourage women to see things from the man’s perspective, with one TikTok user writing: “At least make your arguments closer to what is really being meant in these comments... ‘My husband doesn't do the dishes (the way I want)’.
Advert
Similarly, another TikTok user called out the ‘hate’ towards men in the comments and said both men and women can exhibit passive responsibility. They said: “Yeah a lot of hate towards men here. Just throwing out people of all genders can be passive in this sense.”
Meanwhile, some women gushed about their husbands in the comments. One woman shared: “I guess I am a blessed woman. My husband is not afraid to tackle house chores. He helps me inside and I help him outside. It gets done faster.”
What do you think?
Featured Image Credit: @corrinthecounselor/TikTokTopics: Sex and Relationships, TikTok