A woman has deeply divided opinion after asking the internet to judge whether she should have stopped her husband from taking a nap at Christmas.
Posting her dilemma to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole group, she outlined the issue that 'he's a night owl, I'm a light sleeper' and he has a nap pretty much every single day while she can't nod off at all during the daytime.
He also sleeps in at weekends and when he has time off on top of taking a nap, and the woman wrote that she'd asked her husband to try and get to bed earlier but he 'never gives in to my requests'.
Eventually this became such a problem for her on Christmas Day as he went for a nap right in the middle of everything.
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While they got up at 9am on Christmas Day to open presents with their kids and have some breakfast, she wrote that two hours later he was heading back to bed for a nap.
The woman wrote that she was 'beyond appalled' at this as it was Christmas and he could have played with their daughters, sat down to watch a Christmas movie with them or help clear up the mess in some way.
Asking strangers on the internet whether she was wrong for trying to stop him and being mad at him for napping on the big day it was hard to find a clear consensus.
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When it comes to these sorts of posts the internet community is pretty good at figuring out the details and either reassuring the person that they're alright, or explaining to them where they went wrong.
In this case however, people really struggled to make up their minds over whether she was right to deny him a Christmas Day nap or not.
Plenty thought she was not in the wrong for 'wanting to spend time with your husband', and others said it sounded like he 'doesn't pull his weight'.
Someone else thought the naps represented the husband 'checking out' on his responsibilities and while taking a nap on Christmas Day wasn't wrong, the habit of napping all the time was representative of a larger problem, with the commenter recommending couple's counselling.
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Many who thought she had a point said if it had just been a one-off thing where her husband went for a nap at Christmas she'd be overreacting, but taking a nap almost every day changed the situation.
However, many others thought she was in the wrong, saying that her comment about being 'beyond appalled' was a 'hilarious response' to having a nap for Christmas.
Someone else said having a nap was an important bit of 'self care' and shouldn't be interrupted, while plenty wondered whether the husband had an undiagnosed sleeping disorder.
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Others defended the right to a Christmas nap, some even commenting that their better half was asleep on the sofa as they typed out their replies.
Many agreed that sleeping so much was a problem, but one that needed to be understood to be solved rather than a cause to get angry about.
One of the more popular responses was to say there needed to be compromises on both sides as the husband 'needs to fix his sleeping patterns' while suggesting the wife was 'not very understanding'.
As one commenter put it, this appeared to be 'one of those problems that isn't about the problem'.
Joe Harker