Psychotherapist explains why some people with rare OCD might think they’re a paedophile
Topics: Mental Health, Health, Life, Real Life, Explained
Madison Burgess
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Topics: Mental Health, Health, Life, Real Life, Explained
A psychotherapist has shut down misconceptions around P-OCD and explained exactly what the lesser-known and misunderstood condition is.
It comes after 22-year-old Molly Lambert made the headlines this week after detailing her distressing experience with the mental health condition.
Most of us will have heard of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), which causes frequent obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviours, and P-OCD is a type of this.
It stands for Paedophile-Themed Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and is recognised as a distressing subtype that causes its sufferers to have an obsessive fear of becoming a paedophile.
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It can even cause people to become convinced that they are a paedophile; however, it's really important to remember that this doesn't mean they are one.
Tyla spoke with Dr. Michael Swift, a health psychologist and senior psychotherapist with the British Psychological Society and Swift Psychology, about the details of the condition.
The psychotherapist explained: "In P-OCD, the obsession takes a specific and deeply distressing form: 'What if I am sexually attracted to children?” The thought is experienced not as temptation, but as a threat.
"From there, the mind begins searching for evidence. A fleeting bodily sensation becomes suspect. A memory from years earlier is scrutinised for signs of wrongdoing.
"An entirely innocent interaction is replayed repeatedly, each time under harsher internal cross-examination."
Swift detailed that many individuals may end up 'avoiding children altogether, not because they are drawn towards them, but because they are frightened of what their anxiety might mean'.
"Some leave jobs in teaching or childcare; others withdraw from family life. However, the common denominator is always fear," he said.
As mentioned, there is a lot of stigma from the public, as the condition is rare and often misunderstood.
Breaking it down, Swift reassured: "Public understanding often falters at this point. We are living in a climate that rightly prioritises child protection. But vigilance can slide into simplification: if the thought exists, it must reveal a hidden desire. Clinically, that is not how this works."
This is because in POCD, the thoughts are 'ego-dystonic,' meaning they're not actually aligned with an individual's values.
"These thoughts are experienced as alien, unwanted, and morally unacceptable to the person experiencing them," the expert said, "the emotional tone is one of shame, disgust, and panic. The individual does not fantasise; they catastrophise. The central question is not 'How could I act on this?' but 'What if this means I’m capable of it?'"
Swift warned that the consequences of misunderstanding POCD can be extremely damaging.
He urged: "Many individuals delay seeking help for years because they fear that disclosure will be interpreted as admission. Shame thrives in silence. Depression is common. Suicidal thinking is not unusual, driven not by intent to harm others, but by the belief that they themselves are beyond redemption."
Further shutting down any misconceptions, Swift explained that when someone genuinely has a sexual interest in children, the experience 'does not revolve around panic or relentless self-doubt' and is 'not characterised by years spent avoiding children, interrogating every bodily sensation, or repeatedly asking, “What if this means I’m dangerous?”'
He argued: "At this point, some people will say: 'Yes - because they’re in denial'. But clinical assessment does not rely on someone simply telling us what they feel.
"We look at patterns over time. In P-OCD, the pattern is consistent and clear. The thoughts provoke distress, not gratification. The person attempts to suppress or neutralise them, not elaborate on them.
"They avoid situations involving children rather than seeking them out. They often reorganise their lives to reduce even the possibility of risk - stepping back from jobs, limiting contact, seeking treatment precisely because they are frightened of what the thoughts might mean."
The psychotherapist detailed how 'denial tends to protect desire. OCD magnifies fear. One moves towards what it wants; the other moves away from what it dreads'.
Clinicians are 'trained to assess intent, behaviour and risk longitudinally, not on the basis of a single disclosure'.
"We examine consistency, avoidance patterns, emotional response, and functional impact. Safeguarding is central to that process. But assuming that every intrusive thought is concealed intent ignores the observable and clinically recognised differences between anxiety and desire," he concluded.
Swift reassured that P-OCD is treatable, with the most effective treatment being Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP).
ERP is a form of cognitive behavioural therapy with a 'substantial evidence base'.
"Long-term studies suggest that around 60 to 70 per cent of individuals experience significant improvement when ERP is delivered properly," the psychologist explained.
Swift said, "Treatment does not revolve around reassuring someone that they are 'definitely not' what they fear. Reassurance provides short-term relief but ultimately strengthens the cycle. Instead, therapy involves gradually facing the feared thoughts or situations without performing the compulsions that normally follow.
"For someone with P-OCD, that might mean learning to tolerate uncertainty about bodily sensations without analysing them, or being around children in ordinary, appropriate contexts without engaging in mental checking.
"Over time, the brain learns that anxiety can rise and fall without catastrophe, and the alarm system recalibrates."
He added, "I often describe OCD as a smoke alarm set too sensitively. A healthy alarm sounds when there is a real fire. An OCD alarm sounds when you make toast. The noise is convincing, but it is still a false signal. Therapy helps retrain the system so that toast is no longer mistaken for catastrophe.
"Recovery, however, does not mean never having another intrusive thought. It means recognising that thoughts are mental events, not confessions."
If you're experiencing distressing thoughts and feelings, the Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) is there to support you. They're open from 5pm–midnight, 365 days a year. Their national number is 0800 58 58 58 and they also have a webchat service if you're not comfortable talking on the phone.