Suspecting that your SO has been unfaithful is a truly rubbish and heartbreaking predicament.
Do you confront them straight away? Or monitor their behaviour?
And if they are cheating, what happens next?
Infidelity can have a devastating impact on a relationship, and can cause irreparable damage to those involved.
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Although some people are truly professionals in covering up shady behaviour, there are sometimes tell-tale signs that something's amiss.
After all, it's probably not normal to be so cagey with your phone, and going AWOL for two days probably isn't a good sign either.
Now, one relationships expert has revealed some of the tell-tale signs to look out for and what you can do if you notice them.
Increased intimacy levels
According to relationship expert and dating coach James Preece, author at HeraHaven.ai, noticing an increase in sex drive could be a surprising sign.
"While it may sound contradictory, a noticeable increase in intimacy could be a sign your partner is thinking about having sex with someone else," James tells Tyla.
"A surge in sexual activity could initially seem positive but it could be a heightened interest for them to fantasise about being with someone else."
Changes in phone use
James explains that a sudden shift in phone habits could also be a red flag, especially if they're being secretive.
"If they are hiding their screen, stepping out to take calls, or spending significantly more time texting, these behaviours could signal that they are communicating with someone new," says James.
"If you notice your partner is unusually protective over their phone, this may indicate secrecy."
Increased argumentative behaviour
If you suspect your partner could be cheating, it's worth keeping an eye on how often they argue, too.
"Partners sometimes justify their own behaviour by shifting blame," says James.
"If they are contemplating cheating, they may become more critical or argumentative, perhaps even expressing dissatisfaction more frequently. This could be their way of rationalising thoughts about infidelity as they start to perceive the relationship more negatively."
A new 'friend' or unusual social patterns
James explains that a new 'friend' or a change in how often they're socialising could also be a cause for concern.
"If your partner suddenly has a new friend they’re spending a lot of time with, this could be a sign to look closer," he says.
"They might start working late more often as a cover for these interactions. It’s worth paying attention to whether these new acquaintances seem to take precedence over existing commitments."
Taking extra care with their appearance
While there's nothing suspicious about joining the gym, James says any 'abrupt' change in appearance or self-care regime could be a red flag.
"Starting a new fitness regime, adopting a diet, or suddenly caring more about how they look can be a warning sign that they’re trying to impress someone," James adds.
"Any abrupt changes in physical appearance or self-care that seem out of character, such as going to the gym more often or dieting, could be a sign they are trying to gain someone else’s attention."
What to do if you're concerned
"If you suspect something is amiss, an honest conversation is often the best approach," says James.
"Try to avoid accusations and instead approach this as an opportunity to understand each other’s needs.
"Ask if there are underlying issues and express your commitment to the relationship. Offering reassurance and an ego boost can often help re-establish trust and connection, potentially addressing any urges to stray.
"Cheating can sometimes stem from unaddressed insecurities or unmet needs. With open communication and a commitment to working on issues together, many couples can rebuild their connection and avoid the hurt that comes with infidelity."
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Dating, Life, Real Life
Lucy Devine