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Expert shares five early red flags you should never ignore when dating a new man

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Published 14:20 3 Oct 2023 GMT+1

Expert shares five early red flags you should never ignore when dating a new man

His first point in particular seems to be resonating with many TikTokers

Jess Hardiman

Jess Hardiman

A professional dating coach has shared five early red flags you should never ignore when dating a new fella.

Sometimes it’s easy to be swept away in a new romance, but one expert reckons this is the perfect time to keep your wits about you.

UK-based dating coach Jacob Lucas regularly shares tips and advice for those looking for love on TikTok (@jacoblucas101), from ways to feel more confident when out on dates through to signs that you might be ‘too good’ for someone.

In a recent video, Jacob lifted the lid on the ‘5 early red flags you should never ignore when dating a new man’, asking in the caption: “Have you dated someone like this before?”

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“Number one: they will tell you secrets about their life that will make you feel pity for them early on,” he began.

“People who have been through genuine hard times in their life very rarely share that with people who they just met.

“Most of the time they will do this to see how you emotionally respond to them and if they get the reaction that they are looking for then they will think that you are easy to manipulate.”

Next up is s**t-talking about an ex when he’s only just met you.

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It's a big no-no if they start talking negatively about an ex after just meeting you.
TikTok/@jacoblucas101

“It’s a red flag if he calls his ex ‘crazy’, blaming his ex for everything or oversharing their relationship with you and he’s only just met you,” Jacob said.

“It shows that he’s socially unaware because he should know that you don’t want to talk about his ex when you just met him.”

Jacob’s third red flag was if a man was ‘indecisive’, which he said ‘will get exhausting for you’.

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“You’ll be the one planning all the dates and you’ll be the one making all the big decisions in the relationship because that person can’t make their mind up about anything,” he explained.

“Number four: he talks badly about his friends.

“He’s the one freely choosing to hang out with these people and if he’s calling them idiots, well nine out of 10 times he’s going to be an idiot himself.

“Birds of a feather flock together.”

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Jacob regularly shares dating tips on TikTok.
TikTok/@jacoblucas101

Finally, Jacob said if you’re open minded and have ambition, but he’s the complete opposite, things may become tricky.

“If you are open minded and you like to grow as a person and you have ambition and you start dating a man who has none of these traits then you two will not work as a couple because you either grow together or you grow apart,” he said.

The video racked up thousands of likes and more than 69,000 views, with many people commenting to say they totally agreed with Jacob’s warnings.

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One wrote: “First one IS SOOO TRUEEE.”

Someone else said: “Omg no 1 always happens. How do I attract them all??”

A third added: “Great list. People, don’t ignore these flags as much as you’re physically attracted to the person. Also, the way they treat others speaks volumes.”

Featured Image Credit: TikTok/jacoblucas101

Topics: Sex and Relationships, TikTok

Jess Hardiman
Jess Hardiman

Jess is Entertainment Desk Lead at LADbible Group. She graduated from Manchester University with a degree in Film Studies, English Language and Linguistics. You can contact Jess at [email protected].

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