A woman thought she was trying her hand at love, only to find out that the person sitting across from her had a list of questions ready to see if she was worthy.
The dating game is hard these days, and it’s no surprise when you think of all of the so-called dating experts online spewing misleading information.
People used to be able to meet face-to-face and have a chat, and from there, they would know whether or not they could see themselves in a relationship.
However, when you take into account all of the advice handed out online to men and women about signs you might need to look out for (particularly signs that someone is after your money), then there is the risk that you’re going to drive good-hearted candidates away.
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Unfortunately, this is what happened to one woman who was on the receiving end of a ‘gold digger’ list her date pulled out during a previously swell dinner.
The 29-year-old shared her conundrum on Reddit, as she explained how initially, the pair realised they had common interests, before things took a turn.
The little date was set up by a mutual friend, and at first, the 31-year-old man seemed like a good match when he rocked up at the café.
“The date actually started out really well,” she wrote. “We had a lot in common, great conversation, and honestly I was feeling pretty good about it.”
But when the $100 bill arrived, there seemed to be an underlying meaning behind his next actions.
While she was prepared to spit the bill in half, her date suddenly passed it to her and asked her: “Is it alright if you pay for this?”
She was a little shocked, as anyone would be, but she agreed as she could afford the bill amount. That’s when he apparently revealed his reasons for shunting the cost, and people were not happy in the comments.
The woman wrote: “Right after I paid, he got this huge grin on his face and said, ‘Congratulations, you passed the test! You're not a gold digger.’”
The man explained that he once had an ex-partner who expected him to pay for everything in the relationship, and to avoid going through the same financial headache, he now ‘tests’ potential lovers to make sure they aren’t the same type of person.
To this, she was understandably upset, and said: “I told him that I'm not his ex and he has no right to treat me like I'm guilty until proven innocent.”
She then got up to leave, telling her that he is ‘not some prize that I need to pass tests for’.
After the nightmare café rendezvous, she told their mutual mate (who was probably kicking themselves afterwards) that it went horrid and that she didn’t want to see the man again.
Even after she’d blocked him, she updated the thread to reveal that he had been attempting to get into contact with her via new accounts and messaging apps, and even on LinkedIn.
“At first, it was stuff like ‘I just want to explain,’ then ‘You’re not like other girls, I know that.’ Then it turned into full paragraphs about how I’m ‘punishing’ him for protecting himself and how he’s the one who feels betrayed,” she told the community.
While she ignored him, she admitted that she now gets ‘this weird, anxious feeling’ when she sees a notification with his name on.
Was he right to do this, or not?
Topics: Dating, Dating trends, Sex and Relationships, Reddit, Money
Britt Jones