Security expert issues warning to anyone engaging in 'AI threesomes'
Has AI become the digital ‘third’ in many relationships?
A security expert has issued a pretty stark warning to any couples out there engaging in 'AI threesomes'.
While it may sound like it’s come right out of a Black Mirror episode, it’s been reported that a number of UK couples are spicing up their love lives with ‘digital threesomes’ using AI bots.
Lovehoney's 2026 Sex Trends Report revealed that one in four people in the UK talk to AI about sex (15 percent) or would like to (10 percent).
"It's clear that the technology will have increasing influence over our relationships, as more people turn to it for dating advice and even sex therapy. We’ll also see a rise in AI companion apps, which will cause serious ethical and privacy concerns as regulators scramble to implement safeguards," the report outlines.
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Meanwhile, sexologist Elisabeth Neumann outlined, via the Daily Star, that ‘technology itself’ is 'seducing us through AI dating coaches, digital threesomes and fantasy-fuelled escapism’.
However, anyone keen on hopping on the trend has been advised to exercise caution.
Speaking exclusively to Tyla, security expert Will Geddes explained: “One of the biggest challenges you have with AI is that AI will start recognising your behaviour.
“It is building a picture like a jigsaw puzzle of who you are, what your likes are, what your dislikes are.”
He outlined that many people tend to use AI in a capacity where ‘ultimately, we're running our lives, our business, our personal lives through this’.
“So, to introduce it to the more intimate workings, which we would otherwise keep quite secret, puts us at a potential compromise in terms of building a greater picture of you and where that data is being held,” Geddes warned.
The expert also highlighted one of his concerns about how AI may affect people as some individuals ‘can lean too heavily on AI opinion and sentiment’.
“This is an automated system, which is not a human interaction that is injected with emotion necessarily, but a more pseudo-emotional context,” Geddes explained.
“As a direct result, it can perhaps alienate us, and could make us more reliant on technology than it is on human interaction. And one of the biggest concerns these days is how social media and automation, like AI, are distancing us from human interaction."
Lovehoney echoes: "These trends raise serious concerns. Declining interest and trust in dating real people, combined with dependency on AI companions, may distort people’s perceptions of intimacy and ability to build interpersonal connections.
"Not only that, but the lack of regulation raises concerns about the safety and privacy of users."
The security expert concluded by telling Tyla that, if we are to protect ourselves from hacking, the best way to consider that will be ‘ensuring that there are no specific identifiers of who we are or information that could easily be attributable to us personally’.
“And therefore, if you're using AI, it would always be advised that you remove any personal identifiers within any of your inquiries, but also consider that you use a non-signed-in account, so it would be more of a vanilla account that cannot be associated with you necessarily,” Geddes resolved.
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Rhiannon Ingle