Disappointed mum says she'd rather not be pregnant than have a baby boy
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A disappointed mum has revealed she'd rather not be pregnant after finding out she is expecting a baby boy.
Some expecting parents would probably be lying if they said they didn't have some sort of a preference when it came to the gender of their baby.
And one mum took to the parenting platform Mumsnet to say that her baby scan, where she found out she would be having a boy, left her 'embarrassed, stressed, upset and really anxious'.
Before that, the pregnancy journey for the anonymous British woman has been a bumpy one, as she explained: "I am pregnant following IVF, so it’s a very much wanted, planned for and awaited pregnancy."
She continued: "I am apprehensive about how much a baby/child will change our lives, but excited as well.
"I knew I would ‘prefer’ a girl (as would my husband), but the level of my disappointment when we found out the gender (boy) at my 20 week scan has floored me.
"I feel like I have no ‘right’ to feel like this, especially given through IVF I know so many people who would give anything to be in the position I am now, but I still can’t seem to shake how it’s made me feel."
The mum-to-be then went on to explain how she feels the baby boy is 'not meant to be there', adding: "I’ve had points where I feel like I’d rather not be pregnant than have a boy - and I don’t know why I feel like this."
She concluded her post by saying: "I always would have ‘imagined’ a girl, my relationship with my dad is variable, my mum passed away a couple of years ago, quite young, and my due date is literally a day after her birthday. I guess all this played into my preference….but regardless of the reasons, how do I change my mindset now?"
And the unnamed mum is certainly not on her own, with many women sharing similar experiences.
As a result, many have flocked to the comment section of the Mumsnet post to offer their advice and support.
One woman who was also set on having a girl but ended up with a boy wrote: "I can hand on heart say he was born, and I adored him. I just adore having a son. He's beautiful and gorgeous. He's lovely."
A second added: "Honestly, you won't always feel this way. You'll be so in love when that baby is in your arms. From a mum with two boys who desperately wanted a girl."
Meanwhile, a third remarked: "I had quite severe gender disappointment with my son, and it took me a long time to get over it, but he is a delight."