Mica Miller posted cryptic social media video weeks before her death

Warning: This article contains discussion of suicide and domestic violence which some readers may find distressing.

Mica Miller shared a video about leaving an abusive relationship just weeks before her death, and the footage has now resurfaced after appearing in Netflix’s new true crime series Death of the Pastor’s Wife.

Mica posted the video on social media on 22 March 2024, just over a month before she died by suicide aged 30. In it, she spoke directly to Christians who might feel trapped in a dangerous relationship because they believe leaving would make them a bad person or go against their faith.

In the video, she can be heard saying: "Jesus took it all for you, so you don't have to stay in an abusive relationship."

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Mica went on to address the idea that leaving a marriage could make someone 'a bad mum, a bad wife, a bad husband', while discussing the belief that God hates divorce.

She added: "But does abuse hurt people? How do you think God feels about that?"

Mica would die only weeks later.

The video also came shortly before she served her husband, pastor John-Paul 'JP' Miller, with divorce papers.

Mica’s death is at the centre of Death of the Pastor’s Wife, a three-part Netflix documentary series which premiered last week (26 August).

The docu-series, which only includes a short clip of Mica's video, looks back at Mica’s life, her relationship with JP and the circumstances surrounding her death, using previously unseen footage, family interviews, church recordings, messages and entries from Mica’s journals.

Mica Miller discussed 'abusive relationships' in the clip shared to social media (Netflix)

It goes on to explore allegations that Mica experienced emotional, spiritual and sexual abuse and coercive control during her marriage.

JP has denied the allegations.

He has also pleaded not guilty to federal charges of cyberstalking and making false statements to investigators, and has not been charged in connection with Mica’s death.

For viewers who have now seen the short clip in the documentary, the full social media video offers a little more context around what Mica was saying at the time.

She also used the video to remind viewers that an 'Earthly Spouse' is secondary to being 'the bridge of Christ', asking what Jesus would do when someone in a relationship is being abused.

The clip was uploaded to social media weeks before Mica's death (Netflix)

John-Paul and Mica Miller: A timeline of events

2015: John-Paul and Mica begin an affair

After first crossing paths when Mica was 13 and attending Solid Rock Church, where John-Paul was a pastor, the pair began an affair when she was 20 and he was 15 years her senior at 35, according to the Netflix doc.

Both were already married at this point - John-Paul had five children with his first wife, Alison Williams, and Mica was married to a fellow member of Solid Rock Church.

2017: John-Paul and Mica marry

After both divorcing their respective spouses, the pair wed each other on 7 November, 2017, when Mica was 23 and John-Paul was 38.

2023: Divorce filing after allegations of control and abuse

Mica first filed for divorce from John-Paul after almost exactly six years of marriage, on 8 October, 2023, according to court documents.

This came after the couple's relationship dynamic was described by Mica's family as 'toxic', despite John-Paul maintaining that they had a 'great marriage' and an 'amazing' relationship.

February-March 2024: Divorce filing dismissed and withdrawn

On 13 February, 2024, Mica's divorce was dismissed. And ten days later, John-Paul filed for separation from Mica, which was subsequently dismissed without prejudice on 12 March, 2024.

April 2024: A final filing for separation

Mica filed for separation for the last time on 15 April, 2024, and a hearing for the separation was scheduled for 5 June. However, just two days after John-Paul was served the separation papers on 27 April, Mica was found dead at the age of 30.

The next day, John-Paul returned to the Solid Rock lectern and gave a sermon, announcing Mica’s death and telling the audience that it was self-inflicted, citing her alleged ongoing mental health struggles.

May 2024: Mica's death is ruled a suicide

According to a media release from the sheriff’s department, Mica died by suicide. Her cause of death was determined after a review of surveillance footage and an examination by the North Carolina Medical Examiner, as well as interviews.

It later emerged that Mica called 911 to announce that she was going to take her own life, and asked operators to trace her call so her family would be able to find her body.

Summer 2024: Mica's family make allegations against John-Paul

Her family shared their concerns over her well-being before her death, and alleged that John-Paul was abusive throughout their marriage - claims John-Paul has continuously denied.

November 2024: Solid Rock Church closes

After John-Paul's sermon addressing Mica's death was recorded and posted online, where it went viral, her death gained online notoriety, and it is believed this contributed to Solid Rock Church closing its doors for good.

December 2025: John-Paul is indicted on two charges

In the time period leading up to Mica's death, she reports that the tyres of her car were slashed multiple times, and told officers that she was being followed.

John-Paul denied being involved in this alleged stalking, but in December 2025, the FBI claimed that he had not been telling the truth to officials.

A federal grand jury indicted John-Paul on charges of cyberstalking and making false statements to the FBI.

January 2026: John-Paul arraigned in federal court

The case has been continued to October 2026 for a court date.

August 2026: Netflix releases Death of the Pastor's Wife

The three-part docu-series outlines Mica's story and features interviews with her family and those close to her.

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