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Woman divides opinion after saying it's exhausting parenting with an obese partner

Emily Brown

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Woman divides opinion after saying it's exhausting parenting with an obese partner

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A mother sparked mixed reactions after admitting she was 'exhausted' by having to co-parent with a partner who is obese.

It goes without saying that being a parent is tough and tiring at the best of times, but one mother questioned whether she was 'being unreasonable' as she took to Mumsnet to ask for advice about her situation this week.

In the post, the mum admitted she was expecting to 'get flamed' for sharing her thoughts, but said that she was 'finding it hard to co-parent with a [sic] obese person'.

The mum asked whether she was being unreasonable if she considered leaving her partner. Credit: pumkinpie / Alamy Stock Photo
The mum asked whether she was being unreasonable if she considered leaving her partner. Credit: pumkinpie / Alamy Stock Photo

"He can’t go on rides or inflatables as he is over the weight limit. He can’t play football/netball with our kids as he is breathless and has no energy. His days are oriented round food and when he can next sleep (he struggles exhaustion I guess due to moving around with his weight)," the mum explained.

The NHS explains that obesity is estimated to affect around one in every four adults in the UK, and that 'generally, men with a waist size of 94cm or more and women with a waist size of 80cm or more are more likely to develop obesity-related health problems'.

The condition can lead to diabetes, heart disease, cancer and strokes, and the mum admitted that her partner's health issues have left her 'scared he’ll die in sleep and the kids will find him'.

"I’m so tired of being the active parent and feeling like I’m dragging him about. I’ve talked to him about diet/bariatric surgery but he is not ready for this," she explained.

The mum claimed her partner's weight is affecting their relationship. Credit: Pixabay
The mum claimed her partner's weight is affecting their relationship. Credit: Pixabay

The mum acknowledged that the man is 'ill' and that obsessive eating is a compulsion, but admitted that she's 'running out of sympathy' and is 'so f*cking tired of him'. "Is awful to leave him?," she asked.

Responses to the mother's situation varied, with many assuring her that she wasn't being unreasonable.

One person replied to say she was not being 'awful', adding: "I wouldn't stay, either."

Not everyone was so supportive, however, with one person questioning whether the reactions would be the same if the situation was reversed, writing: "I remember a man posting the same thing about his wife and how her obesity was hindering family life and he was thinking of leaving her..he got absolutely FLAMED."

Other Mumsnet users took issue with the mum's revelation that her husband weighs 105kg (16 stone), with many claiming that they are of similar weights and can function perfectly well in normal life.

The mum said that her partner says he has a 'plan to lose weight', but that he has been 'saying that for five years'.

She also revealed that he is 5'7 and has sleep apnea, but refuses to see a doctor. She added that he had also struggled with 'pre-diabetes' a few years ago,

The NHS says that the best way to tackle obesity is 'to eat a healthy reduced-calorie diet and exercise regularly'.

Topics: Sex and Relationships, Food and Drink, Health

Emily Brown
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