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A heartbroken woman has confessed that she sold her ex-fiancé's $25,000 (£18,000) family heirloom after catching him cheating and calling off their wedding.
After finding herself severely out of pocket for having to cancel her dream wedding at the last minute, and receiving no help from her former partner, the woman is now asking if she was in the wrong for selling her ex's great-grandmother's ring.
Posting to popular Reddit page r/AmITheAs*hole?, she explained that all had been going well with her husband to be 'Mason' until a mutual friend caught him cheating with his ex girlfriend 'Kim' just two weeks before the wedding.
She wrote: "Because it's so close to our wedding date, I had already booked everything like the venue, catering and everything else. I barely managed to get any money back as it's mostly non-refundable so in total I've lost $20,000 (£13,200).
"Last year I took out a loan to cover the costs of the wedding, the longer I take to repay it the more interest it gets. When we first got engaged, Mason agreed to sharing our finances together, meaning had we got married I would've been able to pay it off. This was supposed to be in our prenup but because we didn't get married, it meant he no longer had to share finances.
"I asked him if he was still willing to help and told him that I will go into debt if he doesn't as I can't repay it alone. He told me 'It isn't my problem you took out a loan you can't pay back'' and stopped responding after that. When we got engaged, Mason proposed to me with a family heirloom ring belonging to his great grandmother that was worth $25,000 (£18,000). When we canceled the wedding, he told me he wanted the ring back but we never got around to arranging a time he could pick it up."
Not willing to go into debt over a cancelled wedding, the OP went on to say that she told her ex she would sell the ring if he didn't agree to help pay off the loan.
She wrote: "He didn't reply and ignored the messages however after talking to a mutual friend (Jake) I found out he had actually read the messages and told everyone he didn't care because I ''wouldn't do it'. I asked Jake to tell Mason that if I don't get a message from him in the next 24 hours that I would sell the ring.
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"Jake told me he again said he didn't care and didn't think I would do it. So the next day I sold the ring to an online website and messaged Mason to tell him it had been done and told him he shouldn't have underestimated me."
Needless to say, 'Mason' was furious, and came to the OP's house demanding the family ring back.
The former bride-to-be continued: "He blew up at me, saying I was a petty b*tch and that I shouldn't have sold it because it wasn't just a ring, it was an heirloom that meant a lot to his family.
"A lot of my family members think I overreacted and shouldn't have gone to extreme measures as it will be hard for him to get the ring back, if he even can at all."
While the OP did face backlash from her ex's family from selling the family heirloom, other Redditors reassured her that she did the right thing.
Although some users were concerned about the legality of it all and wondered whether the OP could have a lawsuit on her hands for selling the heirloom, and overwhelming majority of Reddit users voted that she was NTA - Not The As*hole.
One commented: "I was really prepared to give a different vote, but, if you don’t want to lose a valuable family heirloom, don’t give it to someone and then cheat on them. Also, believe that person the many times they warn you that they’ll sell it to pay for a wedding that had to be cancelled due to your own antics… so, yeah, NTA."
Another wrote: "I believe that engagement rings and heirlooms should be returned after a breakup. That being said, he cheated a month before the wedding, blocked your messages, refused to help pay and mocked you."
What do you think?
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Ali Condon