Mum Tells Son's Fiancé He Cheated With His Ex When She Thought He Was Going To Die
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A woman has revealed that she called off her wedding after her fiancé's mum told her he had recently cheated on her with his ex.
The then bride-to-be's mum confessed his secret after he was hospitalised following a car cash, and she feared that he wasn't going to make it.
She wanted his partner to know his secret so that he could pass with a clean slate.
However, he survived and recovered and is now in the process of trying to win his fiancée back.
Prior to telling the man she thought was the love of her life it was over, she took to Reddit to vent about the situation, writing: "I feel like a horrible person.
"We are supposed to get married in a small ceremony. I've been with my fiancé for six years, engaged for one. The best years of my life.
"He's brilliant in every way, or so I thought."
She said that he needed 'hours and hours of surgery' after the accident, which resulted in her waiting outside with his family.
The woman wrote: "His mum is (was) one of my favourite people and we got along very well. She was happy to have me as her first daughter (in law).
"She's religious and when my fiancé was hovering between life and death she was worried about his sins so she told me that he cheated on me about two months ago with an ex he bumped into.
"She explained that it was because of the wedding and the stress of planning it. Apparently I've been both stressed out and stressing him out.
"He had a weak moment, it was a one time thing and he regretted it so much.
"He asked his parents for advice on what to do and they told him not to say anything.
"As long as he's remorseful and as long as it was me he wanted, he should forget about what he did and move on. His whole family knew."
When the man recovered from the accident, he moved back in with his parents, and his fiancée didn't initially let on that she knew the truth - she even regularly visited to help.
She said: "Now both fiancé and his parents are talking about us being able to get married on the day we set after all. I feel awful because I don't want that.
"Our relationship was over the moment I found out about the cheating. I stayed because I loved (still do) him and I wanted him to feel better. I couldn't break his heart while he's recovering.
"I also thought the wedding was postponed and that I (we) would have more time for him to recover fully and be strong
and independent again so I could leave with clear conscience."
The man's mum has now admitted that she should have never told his fiancée about the cheating, but she is insisting that she 'shouldn't take advantage of what she said in desperation.'
"I'm so angry and I've been bottling it up since the accident," she concluded her post. "I'm afraid I'm going to explode soon!"
The woman went on to provide an update about the situation a few days letter.
She wrote: "I started by telling my parents, who are paying for the wedding, about what happened and that I'm cancelling the wedding.
"Hopefully they can get back some of what they paid via their home insurance. I have told them that I'm going to pay the rest of the damages."
However, at this point, her fiancé still had no idea that she knew about the cheating, and she decided to bring her parents with her to confront him at his parents' house.
She said: "Since my fiancé still lives with his parents I felt that I would be outnumbered if I went alone to end it.
"Text or a call wasn't an option since he meant a lot more to me than that and I really wanted to see his face and ask wtf!
"I also wanted him to see my hurt. I don't want it to be comfortable for him. Cheaters must see the hurt they cause and hopefully learn from it."
When she arrived with her mum and made the revelation, he immediately begged for forgiveness.
She said: "He told me all things they say in desperation. He was foolish. He didn't think. He was stressed out. He was scared. It meant nothing. He regretted it.
"He didn't want to tell me because it meant nothing and he didn't want to hurt me. I should give him a chance to prove himself and his loyalty. He can ask his parents to pay for the wedding.
"We can postpone the wedding indefinitely. I can take the apartment and he will live with his parents. As long as it takes for me to forgive him."
But the woman wasn't satisfied by her partner's excuse for cheating, and while they have resolved for her to live in their apartment for now, she still wants to remain separated.
She said: "His mum has called me to say that she felt guilty for first not advising him to come clean but even for later divulging his secret to me without his permission.
"She was disappointed that I took advantage of her moment of panic but that she understands that I'm hurt.
"She said he will do his best to win me back."
The woman explained that the situation has been worsened by her own parents, who she revealed don't 'believe that it’s really over'.
However, Reddit users praised her for doing what was right for her in the face of immense pressure and a difficult set of circumstances.
One wrote: "Cheating is unacceptable, no matter the reason. Even if they fell in love with someone else, the right thing to do would be to break up before going further. Cheating is unfair and disgusting and no reason can change that."
"He did it because he thought he could get away with it," wrote another. "Never even consider staying with a cheater. It's quite possible this wasn't the only time."
A third advised: "If his mom calls again, Do Not Answer. She is not responsible for this situation, her son is, and she needs to butt out of it."
"Mommy was afraid he was going to die so she tried to do his confessing for him," remarked a fourth.
"It was weird and gross, and she tried to use his near death experience to manipulate OP into forgiving him for cheating he never even confessed to himself."
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