Couple with 34-year age gap say their ‘100/100’ rule keeps them together
A couple with a 34-year age gap have opened up about their ‘100/100’ rule that keeps them together.
Gracen and Kevin Geagan, who tied the knot in November 2025 after having met four and a half years ago at a steakhouse in Greenville, frequently share updates regarding their non-traditional relationship on Gracen's TikTok page, which boasts over 113k followers.
One of their most-viewed social media videos, which currently has more than 15 million views, saw the happy couple sit down and explain what their 'relationship non-negotiables' were, and it's fair to say it sparked quite the divided reaction in fans online.
The husband and wife duo have since sat down with Tyla to share a little more about how they navigate their relationship and how the coupling even came about in the first place, starting with what first drew them to one another, beyond the notable age difference.
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What first drew you to each other?
"One of the funniest things to us is when people assume we couldn’t possibly have anything in common because of the age gap, because, honestly, the exact opposite was true," Gracen, 26, tells Tyla.
"What drew us together was conversation, shared values, and how naturally we connected from the beginning."
Citing shared interests of health, wellness, faith and personal growth, she added: "I loved hearing Kevin’s life experiences and perspective, and I think we were both drawn to the sense of peace and emotional safety we felt with one another very early on.
"At the end of the day, the foundation of our relationship was never novelty - it was compatibility."
How aware were you of the 34-year age gap when you first met, and has that awareness changed over time?
Kevin, 60, tells Tyla that he and Gracen were 'of course' aware of their age gap as a number, but he says it never became the 'defining factor' in how they experienced one another.
"We were much more focused on how naturally things flowed between us, how aligned our values were, and how peaceful the relationship felt," he continued. "Over time, that really hasn’t changed.
"If anything, we’ve become even more convinced that communication, character, emotional maturity, and shared values matter far more than matching birth years."
What assumptions do people make about your relationship that are completely wrong?
According to Kevin, one of the 'biggest misconceptions' is that people assume there must be some 'hidden agenda' or 'imbalance in the relationship'.
"People often assume Gracen was drawn to me because of money, when in reality those conversations weren’t even important to us early on," he said. "Our relationship developed around friendship, values, compatibility, and how we genuinely felt around one another."
Another misconception, Kevin adds, is that he and Gracen, who owns a charcuterie business, couldn’t possibly relate to each other because of the age gap.
"Ironically, we probably communicate more deeply and intentionally than many couples closer in age," he shared. "A lot of people focus so heavily on the age gap that they overlook the actual relationship itself."
The couple's friends and family have been 'incredibly supportive' of their relationship (TikTok/@gracenfaithg)
Have friends or family reacted differently than you expected?
Gracen says that their friends and family have been 'incredibly supportive' from the beginning.
"The people closest to us care much more about how we treat each other and how happy we are than about a number," she continued. "Once people actually see us together, the age gap tends to become much less interesting."
What are your 'relationship non-negotiables'?
Kevin outlines that the four biggest misconceptions include:
- Pray out loud together every night
- Don’t drink alcohol without one another
- Serve one another even during conflict
- Don’t keep score - both people give 100%
"That last one is probably the most misunderstood," he said, before explaining it a little further."
"A lot of people interpreted it as meaning we split everything evenly, but what we actually mean is almost the opposite," Kevin began. "In many relationships, '50/50' can quietly become a form of scorekeeping - each person tracking whether things feel equal, fair, or reciprocated at all times.
"Eventually, someone feels they’re carrying more, and resentment starts to build."
'100/100' mindset explained
Contrastingly, what Kevin and Gracen strive for instead is a '100/100' mindset.
They define this as when 'both people give their best to the relationship without constantly measuring what they’re getting back in return'.
"It creates a spirit of generosity and partnership rather than negotiation," Kevin says.
Of course, the pair still have disagreements, but Kevin says that what matters most to him and Gracen is that 'we never threaten the foundation of the relationship during conflict'.
"We keep the issue the issue, listen fully to each other, avoid weaponising insecurity or abandonment, and assume the other person ultimately has good intentions," he outlined.
"Even during disagreements, we continue serving and caring for one another. That mindset has been incredibly grounding for us."
How do you maintain equality and balance in the relationship despite the age difference?
"This was something we discussed intentionally very early on," Gracen says, adding that Kevin has always encouraged her to maintain strong friendships, 'pursue her own purpose' and ambitions, and continue growing as an individual outside of the relationship.
"We both believe a healthy relationship should complement your identity, not consume it," she continued.
Do you think conversations around age-gap relationships are changing?
Kevin reckons that it does seem like people are becoming 'more willing' to discuss relationship dynamics 'more openly and honestly', especially online.
"At the same time, age-gap relationships are still something people have strong opinions about, and we understand why," he acknowledged. "What’s been interesting to us is seeing how many nuanced conversations emerge once people move beyond surface-level assumptions."
What would you want readers to understand after hearing your story?
Gracen explains: "We didn’t enter this trying to make a statement or become representatives for anything.
"We simply fell in love, built a relationship that feels healthy and peaceful to us, and unexpectedly found ourselves having very public conversations about it.
"More than anything, I hope people understand that relationships are deeply individual. Compatibility, kindness, mutual respect, emotional safety, and shared values matter so much more than most people realise."
"Ultimately," she concluded. "We’re just two people who genuinely enjoy doing life together."
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Life, Social Media, Tyla Exclusive
Rhiannon Ingle