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Topics: Sex and Relationships, Mumsnet
Jess Hardiman
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Mumsnet
A woman has sparked a debate online after complaining about her husband ‘groping’ her and constantly pestering her for sex.
The woman took to Mumsnet to ask others for their advice, and to find out if she was being unreasonable in her reaction.
She said her husband often ‘nagged’ her for sex, and would even ‘mouth a dirty comment’ to her in front of their kids.
“I'm basically sick of my husband groping me and nagging me for sex,” she began her post, titled ‘groping in a marriage’.
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“We have sex maybe once a week and even then I have to force myself. He says twice a week is the norm for most married couples. I disagree.”
Laying out a few specific examples, the woman continued: “If I bend over, he has to slap my a**e. It wasn’t an issue at the start of our relationship, but now it just irritates me. Especially when he does it around DS [Darling Son] (which he knows I don’t like!).
“If I go into the kitchen to do dishes, he’ll follow me and want a full on snog fest.
“If I say I'm going for a shower, he’ll make a crude comment.
“It doesn’t turn me on. It annoys me. I can’t put my feet up on him on the sofa without him thinking I’m initiating sex and trying to put his hands between my legs! When I turn him down, he acts like a wounded puppy!”
The woman said she was ‘really honest’ with her husband the night beforehand and admitted that the ‘more full on he is’, the ‘less’ she wants it.
“He said that if he didn’t ask, he’d never get it as I’ve only initiated sex twice in the last two/three months (true!),” she added.
“I just told him to be less full on. This morning, it was like the conversation never happened.
“Him acting like a horny teenager all the time is actually giving me the ick! Anyone else?”
Many other Mumsnet users agreed the situation sounded ‘awful’, with one saying: “That is gross and as you say a massive turn off. Is he aware of the fact that it's not the 1920s and women are not the property of their husbands?
“I would reiterate every time he starts that crap that you find it very unsexy. And to stop.
"I would almost stop giving into the once a week f**k until he can learn to control himself. But honestly I would [maybe] start reconsidering my choices and consider leaving if he didn't improve.
“Also WTF behaving like that in front of child, way to be a c**p role model.”
Another said: “This is awful - just reading it makes me feel claustrophobic and creeped out. Why are you with him?”
A third wrote: ”Yuck. DH goes through phases of groping that are significantly less invasive than what you are talking about here and I hate it.
"How you cope with this without kicking him the balls while telling him he's assaulting you, I don't know.”