A woman was left in shock after going through her ‘perfect’ boyfriend’s phone while he was sleeping only to make a shocking discovery.
Lottie* thought she was in the ‘healthiest relationship ever’ with her boyfriend who she called ‘doting’ and ‘caring’.
She also expected to spend the rest of their lives together.
But one night, she woke up in the middle of the night and decided to search for her name in her boyfriend’s phone.
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To her horror, the US-based woman found ‘foul’ text messages between her boyfriend and his friends, where he shamed her body, claimed he ‘hated’ their sex life and admitted that he ‘couldn’t stand her in public’.
“Him and his friends spent hours making fun of what I said, degrading, and embarrassing me,” Lottie confessed in a since-deleted post.
“Every insecurity I had laid out into his group chats and made into a punchline.”
“I don't condone looking through phones - I think it's wrong and an invasion of privacy,” she said upon reflection. “I did not have a reason to look through his phone, but what I found shocked me to my core.
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“He called my intimate parts 'weird', said he hated the things I did in bed and made mean jokes, saying things like: 'It would be hot, but not when Lottie does it' or 'It's hot for a minute, but then this b***h opens her f**king mouth'.”
Lottie also shared that she is openly pansexual and worked with LGBTQ+ non-profits. She later found out that her boyfriend called her the ‘f slur’.
"He had endless conversations about how he 'can't f**king stand me', that 'I am so f**king lame'. He said I never add anything to conversations and that he's only with me for the sex,” she wrote.
She called the messages she found ‘misogynistic and homophobic’ and he'd said ‘women should never be in charge of anything because we’re the reason the world was going to crap’.
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Lottie felt confused by the messages, saying: “I felt like I was reading the messages of a stranger, not my loving and supportive boyfriend. He supported me endlessly, said how much he loved talking about the things I was passionate about.
“We never fought, spent all our time together, he went out of his way for me all the time. He made an effort to get to know my friends, any time I had issues in our relationship, we'd chat about it and he'd step up in the perfect way.”
She then revealed that she broke up with her boyfriend immediately even though he tried to explain it away, leaving her feeling ‘so sick to my stomach’.
*names have been changed for this story
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