Featured Image Credit: TikTok/suzannequastsouferian
Topics: Sex and Relationships, TikTok
Mia Williams
Topics: Sex and Relationships, TikTok
A TikToker has shared three tell-tale signs your relationship is probably coming to an end.
Suzanne Souferian, a wellness and relationships expert, has shared a video suggesting exactly how you know that it’s time to call it a day with your partner.
It's a question that has divided opinion from the beginning of time, but Suzanne thinks that her three big signs are something that everyone should look out for in their couples:
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While it’s true that every long-term relationship goes through rocky periods, she claims she has pinpointed the difference between a ‘rough patch’ and when exactly you should be thinking about calling things quits.
Suzanne said: “So two people can argue and still last, it’s really the presence of contempt that means the relationship is probably coming to an end.”
The expert describes contempt as when you’re being degraded or belittled in a relationship - if either of those two things happen regularly, you definitely deserve better!
She says if it feels as though the only way you would feel safe is to leave, that will definitely be a raging sign to run in the opposite direction of your partner.
Suzanne said the second sign is when you look back at your relationship through a ‘negative lens’.
This means that you look at your time together and only the negative bits stick out to you, and even the positives are tinged with scenarios where you know you think things could have been a little healthier.
She said: “Even a couple in the midst of an argument can look back on certain aspects of the relationship with fondness, admiration and love.
“If you’re looking back and all you see is negative, you are probably assuming the worst in one another, you’re not able to enjoy certain parts of the relationship, and it probably means it’s ending.”
The third sign that a relationship might be coming to a close is that you just feel indifferent about each other.
Relationships take hard work but putting each other as a priority in life when you don’t feel like you care enough about a person to put them first, can be hard to maintain.
Suzanne described indifference as: “You don’t mean enough to me for me to make the time or carve out the energy to meet your emotional, mental, physical, sexual, spiritual needs.”
Lots of people resonated with the signs, with one person writing: "This has hit home. You just described my relationship of 13 years."
Another said: "Well said. I think we can also over-romanticise the positive and forget all the negative. Especially after it ends and we think of possibly going back."