A columnist from Australia has shared her thoughts on why 'scorned' wives always end up coming out on top after going through a divorce with their partner.
It can be hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when you're in the midst of a breakup, but writer Jana Hocking is encouraging women to stay positive when it comes to thinking about the 'long-term results' of a breakup.
Hocking shared her thoughts after chatting with a 58-year-old male friend of hers, who has two adult sons and was looking forward to retirement before he left his wife five years ago for a younger woman.
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"Yes, all very scandalous," Hocking said in a column for news.com.au.
After getting into the new romance, the man's new partner 'heard her fertility clock ticking' and they decided to try for a baby.
Nine months later, the woman popped out a pair of twins, meaning the man is now once again 'running around after two toddlers'.
Of course, for some men, this might be a dream come true, but Hocking noted that her friend was now watching his ex-wife with 'envy' as she retired, moved home and started travelling.
Meanwhile, the man had to push back his retirement to help cover the expenses for the new additions to his family.
"As he was having a proper vent, something dawned on me. His ex-wife won," Hocking wrote. "Yes, that sounds petty, but there’s no denying it – she won."
Hocking admitted that a lot of people 'felt sorry' for the ex-wife when her husband left her and struck up with a relationship with a younger woman, and after speaking to a former wife, Hocking learned they had in fact feared the breakup was 'because her boobs were getting saggy, or her butt didn’t sit as high as it used to'.
Ageing is a natural part of life though, and Hocking pointed out that 'if you look at the long-term results, it’s not all swinging from the chandeliers having wild, passionate sex' for new couples.
"Guess what their age-appropriate ex-wives are doing while they’re bearing more children? They’re having a bloody good time," Hocking continued.
Rounding off her argument, Hocking said: "So the next time you see a 'scorned' woman who has just been dumped by her husband for a younger model, let’s give it less of an 'oh, that’s a shame isn’t it', and more of an 'oh girl, let this play out – because trust me, you’ve already won.'"
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Emily Brown