A professional sensualist has revealed the top five things that men can do to their woman in the bedroom that will leave them feeling satisfied every time.
Rubens Abreu from Brazil, is a 30-year-old Bachelors degree holder who is certain that the key to men becoming better lovers to their partners is... listening. The amount of time we've heard that and it still doesn't seem to be sinking in. Tut tut, fellas.
It was reported by YouGov that only 31% of women reach orgasm during sex, compared to 61% of men.
So to help the men out - as it seems like they need it - and the women for that matter, the professional sensualist has put together a list of things that men can do to help women reach that all important moment. We deserve it after all.
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Reuben Abreu, the Vulva Massuer at Sensuali says: “Men tend to get their pleasure and sexual needs prioritised during sex.
"This is because not only are women conditioned in society to be more passive and care for others, but also haven't been given the space and attention to discuss their own needs and desires throughout their lives.
“There is also the fact that a lot of men still to this day can't find the clitoris in a woman, whose only function in the body is to provide pleasure to her.
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“It is as easy as asking her about how she likes to be touched and what turns her on, and if she does not know, go and explore that.
“Learn together, take your time and be patient with her.”
So, here are his top five tips, on how you can please your lady just how she deserves to be!
Communication
Communication is the best medicine: “If I could repeat this five times, I would.
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Ask her what she likes, listen to her body, be present with her when you are being intimate with her, if she does not know, go explore that with her - it's okay.
“There is no right or wrong, it’s about what you both enjoy based on your preferences and desires.”
Patience
Good things ‘come’ to those who wait: “Do not rush things in the bedroom.
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“Be patient with her, do more foreplay, be intimate with her without jumping into penetration.
“You’ve got all the time you need for that, enjoy the process.”
Lip Service
Giving lip service: “Go down on her first.
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“Way too many guys do not go down on a woman but expect her to give them head - how is this fair?
“It is a beautiful thing to please a woman with your mouth and tongue and it feels amazing for her, embrace it.”
Be hands on
Lend a hand: “Use your fingers.
“Your penis can be unreliable, erections come, erections go, and when you ejaculate you will need a break to be able to do it again.
“Your fingers are always hard and you have full control over them - which is the same for your tongue.”
Don't take it personally
“If she does not like what you are doing, do not get your ego hurt.
“Remember that sex is a two-way street.
“Adapt, try new things and learn about her body.”
So there you have it guys, definitely no excuse now.
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Advice
Mia Williams