If you’re feeling as though your sex life is taking a slump, then these six tips from an expert about what men are desperate for women to do in the bedroom may be able to help.
Communication is absolutely essential when it comes to intimacy and expressing what you like or don’t like.
Even though it can be a little awkward to get into the nitty gritty details about what we really want to try, it’s better to at least get it out in the open than to allow your sex life to fizzle out.
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If you’re struggling with a partner who isn’t opening up about his bedroom fantasies, one psychologist has shared six things men are secretly looking for when the time comes to get intimate.
Author and radio presenter Dr Pam Spurr spoke to The Sun about what your other half might be after, from nicknaming their bits to paying them lots of compliments.
According to Dr Spurr, many men ‘hate initiating sex all the time’, and often end up feeling like they’re pressuring their other half.
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Instead, what they ‘really want’ is for you to subtly hint to them that you’re in the mood to get down to it, although Dr Spurr says ‘not so subtly’ also works too...
She said men also like it when they get ‘bigged up’ in the bedroom, meaning they’re essentially after ‘loads of compliments’ while getting down and dirty.
Dr Spurr suggested: “So tell him how you love it when he flips you over into doggy position. Or when he kisses you passionately. Or when he does a jokey Full Monty strip around the bedroom for you.”
She explained how some partners go a bit quiet as they reach orgasm, at which point Dr Spurr says they probably want you to do the same.
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Apparently, it’s all about them just needing a bit of concentration to get there, so you don’t need to be screaming in their ear all the time - all you have to do is respect the silence if that’s what they need.
She also recommends having ‘fun’ nicknaming their penis, saying guys ‘secretly love it’ when they’re given sexy names like ‘the jackhammer’ or ‘Captain Stud’.
For number five, Dr Spurr says 'don’t be direct if they’re not erect’, saying many men prefer to ‘keep it chilled’ and talk about it at a later time.
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Finally, the expert recommends you DO consider their... uh... anal pleasure?
"Loads confess they’d secretly love a little ‘fingertip prostate stimulation’ either during foreplay or full sex,” she said, suggesting slipping a condom, latex glove or even some strong cling film on your finger and teasing his ‘forbidden’ area.
“It’s a complete myth he has gay tendencies if he wants prostate stimulation,” Dr Spurr added.
“It gives men mega-powerful orgasms and straight guys are waking up to this.”
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Dr Pam Spurr’s Six Secret Sex Desires:
· Take the lead
· Big them up
· Respect it if they go quiet
· Have fun nicknaming their penis
· Keep it chilled if they don't get an erection
· Fingertip prostate stimulation
Topics: Sex and Relationships
Britt Jones