Parents want to leave wedding early to throw their own party after bride and groom enforce rule
As millions of husbands and wives around the world will know, planning a wedding is one of the most stressful things you can do in life.
On top of the anxiety that comes ahead of actually saying 'I do', there's also the venue-finding, deposit-paying, registrar-booking, cake-cooking, vow-writing, first dance-practicing, hen-do-planning carnage that comes in the weeks ahead of it.
In these situations, however - if you're lucky - you should be able to rely on your nearest and dearest to help alleviate the pre-marital stress.
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It's a predicament where a helping hand isn't available, however, that can be the most daunting for a bride and groom.
And no one is more aware of that than one social media user, who this week revealed that ahead of marrying his wife - his parents broke the news that they'd actually be sneaking out of his nuptials early.
The heartbroken husband-to-be took to Reddit to ask for advice with his personal crisis, revealing that he'd already uninvited his folks in a fit of rage.
The anonymous groom explained in the desperate post that he and his girlfriend of nine years had recently gotten engaged and were planning on tying the knot the following spring.
He went on to say that, both he and his fiancee had made the decision not to allow children at the ceremony, having witnessed the chaos that youngsters can inflict on special occasions.
One individual unhappy with this restriction, however, was his own mother who argued against people having to leave early to get back to their kids.
But things went from bad to worse for the unnamed groom...
"Now my mother is saying that her and my step dad will be leaving early so that they can throw a separate celebration at their house so that the people that are forced to leave since they have kids have somewhere to go and can still have a good time," he said.
"With this she is telling most of the guest from her side of the family (about 50 of the 125 invited) that they should come to her party instead of the reception."
The groom went on to explain that, following a 'heated argument' - during which his mother claimed she 'doesn't need my permission to throw a celebration' - he told her not to bother coming to the wedding at all.
"This is very difficult for me to accept as I have always imagined my parents being there on my wedding day," he continued. "But at the same time we do not want her there if she is just going to leave early to go party somewhere else and try to take half of our guests with her."
After asking his followers for their words of wisdom, a tidal wave of comments came flooding in, with almost all of them agreeing that he'd done the right thing by banning his mother from his big day.
One exclaimed, 'Woah that’s f*****d', before adding: "Your mother in intentionally trying to sabotage your wedding out of spite because you don’t want children at your wedding. Are your guests likely to snub your wedding in favour of her party?"
They went on to advise: "You should outline to your mother how this action will have a lasting impact on your relationship with her, and her presence around your kids (if any) will be limited because your trust in her is broken by this."
Another penned: "Think of it as an opportunity to save some money. Don’t invite any of your mom's friends or distant relatives that you think will go to your moms party. Heck have a much smaller wedding. Just call around them and ask.
"And you already know this but your mother is crazy."
A third continued: "She’s shown you who she is and she’s helping you weed out the people who are only showing up to socialize. She’s mad because you are not subsidizing her play date.
"Only invite the people who love and support you. Let her party with her friends. Because they are HER friends."
Well said!
Topics: Wedding, Sex and Relationships, Parenting, Reddit
Rhianna Benson