Bride and groom slammed over decision to send ‘you are not invited’ cards to family before wedding

A to-be-wedded couple have been slammed online after a cousin exposed their unsavoury ‘you are not invited cards’.

A Reddit user took to the Wedding Shaming forum to post their reaction to receiving one of the cards from the relative, who was due to get married soon.

Apparently, those who didn’t make the cut to the guest list received the same cards.

The wedding was set to take place in a ‘small garden’ five hours away from where everyone lived.

Due to their tight budget, the pair decided to cut back on who would be in attendance, however, the way they chose to tell everyone that they weren’t invited has sparked controversy.

The couple sent out 'you are not invited cards'. (Getty Stock Images)

According to the user, those who didn’t make the cut were given the cards which read: "You are in our hearts on this special day.”

The person wrote: "Their excuse is for the sake of 'curiosity and thinking of them.' But what I don't understand is why send this BEFORE the wedding. It would make more sense AFTER and send it out to them.”

However, even if you did get an invite, apparently the bride and groom expect you to chip into the hard work of setting up the reception.

The person explained: "I got a text from the couple saying that 'Everyone has a role to help set up. Once the ceremony is done the wedding party will leave to take photos while the GUESTS set up the tables for the reception.’

"I was like what??? They never ASKED if people are willing to do that as if they just dictated people what to do."

People in the comments were put off by the couple’s choice to have people help set up and also send out the cards.

One person wrote: "I am always looking for excuses not to go to a wedding, and this one would be a jackpot.”

Another commented: "I guess the wedding will be smaller than expected because I would definitely send my regrets. Wow — just unbelievable."

They then sent a text requiring all guests to help set up the reception. (Getty Stock Images)

However, one person thought it would be funny to clapback with a text message: "Dear Cousin, While you are in my heart on your special day, I'm so sorry that I won't be able to make it. I'll be traveling to the Antarctica for several months to count how many times penguins breed before laying eggs. Congratulations!"

Another wrote: "Wedding announcements, similar looking to the invite but stating simply that so-and-so & so-and-so WERE married and the date etc., are perfectly acceptable.”

Someone else said: "HOWEVER they are only sent after the wedding with no other information (eg registry, we were thinking of you etc.) included."

Others thought it was a ploy to garner more gifts.

One wrote: "They sent the cards in hopes of getting money and gifts. They using the excuse of 'so they know we are thinking of them' to hide that it's a gift grab.”

Another said: "The 'you’re not invited' card just feels like they are fishing for extra gifts. Tacky."