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Man Sparks Furious Debate Over Inappropriate Comments To Women

Lucy Devine

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Man Sparks Furious Debate Over Inappropriate Comments To Women

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A man has sparked debate after writing a post about women who have spoken out after receiving inappropriate messages online.

Joe Emery, 40, from Essex, took to his LinkedIn profile when he noticed women on social media 'naming and shaming' men who had sent them DMs.

Writing on the platform, he said that women had tried to 'hook up' with him, but he 'took it as a compliment'.

A man has sparked debate after mocking women who have spoken out about receiving 'creepy' messages online (Credit: Kennedy News and Media)
A man has sparked debate after mocking women who have spoken out about receiving 'creepy' messages online (Credit: Kennedy News and Media)

"There's more important things going on than being called beautiful," he later added.

"If someone compliments you in your direct messages, just get on with your day. Or if you really must post it, just blank out their name.

"If it's done respectfully, like someone calls you beautiful, then it's no big deal. Just get over it. I'm sure a lot of women would disagree though.

"I've been on LinkedIn for six years and it's probably happened three or four times. They were just seeing if I wanted to go on a date and hook up. They were complimenting my looks.

"You can tell if somebody's interested in you can't you. I think it's pretty obvious. I know it's different because I'm a man and I don't get these messages as often as women do, but there's a difference between sexual harassment and saying someone has a nice smile.

It sparked fierce debate (Credit: Kennedy News and Media)
It sparked fierce debate (Credit: Kennedy News and Media)

"I personally take the compliment and get on with my day without the need to name and shame somebody.

"I'm not women-bashing. I just see lots of guys getting named and shamed. It could potentially get someone the sack, so I think not blanking out their names is a bit uncalled for.

"The posts I saw were just guys trying to get a date. I get it's a professional platform, but people chat people up in the work environment too."

The post has sparked a lot of debate, with one person calling him a 'woman basher', while other users agreed with his opinion.

Joe's original post said: "A handful of women have slid into my DMs to compliment me on my looks and see if I'd like to hook up, etc. Hard to believe, I know.

"On the rare occasion it's happened, I've taken the compliment and got on with my day. I didn't post a screenshot of the conversation or name and shame them. Does anyone else do this, or just me?"

People were shocked at the post (Credit: Kennedy News and Media)
People were shocked at the post (Credit: Kennedy News and Media)

One person commented: "I'm guessing the fact that you say it has happened to you three times in six years is probably why you don't feel harassed and you don't therefore feel the need to name and shame.

"Women usually experience sexual harassment more often and more aggressively than men - so a pretty pointless post all-in-all, just more women-bashing really. Read the room, particularly given it's International Women's Day week."

While another said: "Perhaps if it happened six times every three days you might feel differently about it."

What do you think?

Topics: Life

Lucy Devine
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