A bride has revealed how she fired her maid of honour over her choice of a plus one.
Taking to Reddit, the bride asked other users for their opinion after she revealed she removed her friend from the role just two weeks before the big day.
The post began with the woman explaining that her friend 'demanded' she bring her boyfriend to the wedding - despite the boyfriend being the bride's ex.
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While the bride explained she had been cool with her best mate dating her ex, she felt it was a step too far to have him at her wedding.
"Now, this was an ex I dated back in college and I am the one who broke it off so it was like cool they're dating now, whatever," the woman wrote.
"BUT. Again when it came to all the important wedding stuff, she was either always with him, too drunk to go anywhere, or straight up ignored me.
"Then I get a message from her that says, 'hey, I have a question'. And I'm like, 'yeah what's up?' THIS BI**H GOES: 'So, umm, (insert boyfriend's name) is going to be at the wedding.' Okay, for one, that was not a question, that was a demand. And secondly, F**K NO. My husband and I agreed that there would be no exes at the wedding.
"My husband also made it very clear that he didn't like my ex in general anyways. No big deal considering this wasn't just my day, it was his too.
"Her response to both me and my husband saying no to her bf coming was, 'WELL. I'm going to have exes at MY wedding.' Cool story bro, but this isn't YOUR wedding."
The bride explained that as the day grew closer, the pair tried to meet up to talk things through, but the maid of honour ended up 'blowing her off'. The bride also said the MOH had been 'flaky' and always seemed to be 'busy' when it came to helping with wedding jobs.
"Basically, I had had enough of their bs and blocked the both of them. I said, you know what...I've had enough. I've been patient and kind with the both of you and I feel like you're trying to take away mine (and my fiance's) day," she wrote.
"This is the one day, the ONE and ONLY day that we get. All of this happened like 2 weeks before the wedding so I was out a MOH but thankfully still had bridesmaids and they were all simply wonderful.
"So, AITA or did I do the right thing for removing toxic people from my life?"
Reddit were pretty unanimous in their decision, with one person writing: "You are never wrong to remove toxic people from your life. Go on and be happy!"
While another said: "If someone starts ghosting you, making demands like that and doing the sort of sh*t she did then they can't be much of a friend. I probably would have already cut her off a while ago.
"As for the ex feeling 'unwanted' HE WAS UNWANTED, FFS! It is NOT her wedding and clearly she was trying to push something on you that neither you or your partner wanted or felt comfortable with."
And a third added: "You are in fact incredibly patient and gave this person way more chances than she deserved for this passive aggressive behaviour. You're better off without either of these people."
Others were more sympathetic towards the maid of honour, however, with another adding: "YTA: it’s not her duty as MOH to help with wedding planning, finding vendors, etc. that should be done with your partner. Your wedding is not going to be everyone else’s priority. Giving ultimatums only force people to resent you, which is what it sounds like happened in the end with your friend."
What do you think?
Lucy Devine