Benny Blanco says Selena Gomez relationship ‘would never have worked out’ if it was for key factor
Benny Blanco has opened up about how his longtime friendship with Selena Gomez eventually turned into a relationship, revealing that he believes their romance may never have happened if they had met at a different time in their lives.
After years of friendship and musical collaborations, the pair's relationship blossomed into something more, with Gomez confirming their romance in December 2023.
Since then, the hitmakers have become one of the internet's favourite celebrity couples, with fans following every milestone in their love story, which may feel like a whirlwind for fans but was actually many years in the making.
The couple announced their engagement in December 2024 and their wedding followed in September last year.
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With their first wedding anniversary fast approaching, Benny Blanco reflected on the importance of timing.
While speaking on The Mel Robbins Podcast in an episode released on Thursday (3 September), Blanco said: “Everything in life is about timing. My relationship with Selena is another great example.”
He “added: We always talk about how it never would have worked out if it were at a different time or place in our lives because neither one of us would have likely been ready.”
The ‘Eastside’ musician said they first met ‘about 15 years ago’ and worked together on music ‘five or six years after that’. This working relationship turned into a ‘casual friendship’.
“Now she’s my wife,” the 38-year-old said.
Interestingly, Selena Gomez previously shared a similar reflection about timing during their joint interview on the On Purpose with Jay Shetty podcast last year.
“I felt like in other situations of mine, I was very reactive,” the Rare Beauty founder began. “I think that’s why I was alone for five years because I really needed to collect myself. I think, in the past—that’s why I say to him all the time—10 years ago, it’s not that I wouldn’t have wanted to be with you; I just wouldn’t have been in the right headspace. And I don’t think that you deserve what I had gone through before.”
In a separate interview, Selena again talked about timing, saying that five years earlier she wouldn't have been mature enough and that the lessons she'd learned had helped her become the best partner she could be for Benny.
When asked if timing is everything, she told Allure: "Definitely," and explained "I don't think I would have been remotely mature enough."
"It's weird to think that only five years ago I wouldn't have been in the right place, but I’ve learned so many lessons [since then] that led me to being the best partner I could be for Benny. And I believe the same with him," she reflected. "He'll say, ‘Gosh, why did we waste so much time?’ And I always say, ‘You wouldn't have liked me back then.' I appreciate his heart, his kindness, his quirks…He's one of the most grounding people in my life, and he makes me feel very normal."
Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco relationship timeline
2008
Gomez and Blanco first met when she was 16 and he was 20, with Selena’s mum connecting them professionally as Selena prepared to sign a record deal.
2015
They begin to collaborate on music together for Selena’s Revival album, with Blanco earning a producing credit on tracks ‘Kill Em with Kindness’ and ‘Same Old Love’.
2023
In the summer, while Gomez drops the song ‘Single Soon’ (co-produced by Blanco) and denies dating anyone on TikTok, she’s actually started secretly seeing Blanco.
By November, rumours the two are an item are starting to swirl after fans notice Gomez’s mum Mandy Teefey has recently followed Blanco on Instagram.
Gomez then confirms the relationship in December, first by liking a celebrity gossip account’s Instagram post about the rumours, then posting a black and white selfie of herself lying on Blanco’s chest on her Instagram story.
Shortly after, she shares a photo of a ring with the letter ‘B’ on her finger.
January 2024
Gomez and Blanco attend a Los Angeles Lakers game for their first public outing together.
May 2024
During an appearance on The Howard Stern Show, Stern says he thinks Blanco and Gomez will wed. Gomez responds: “You and me both … I gotta get my act together!”
September 2024
In a Vanity Fair story, Gomez shares that she can’t carry her own children for medical reasons, but is eager to start a family.
December 2024
Gomez announces the pair are engaged, sharing an Instagram photo of her ring with the caption: “forever begins now…”
March 2025
The pair release joint album I Said I Loved You First, which includes steamy lyrics about riding it ‘like a cowboy’.
September 2025
Gomez and Blanco tie the knot at Sea Crest Nursery near Santa Barbara, California. The guest list includes Taylor Swift, Martin Short, Steve Martin and Paul Rudd. Gomez has three separate wedding dresses for the occasion.
Topics: Celebrity, Benny Blanco, Selena Gomez
Greg Harris