Ben Thompson
Your wedding day is often said to be the most important day of your life.
And if it is indeed that, then you would want your nearest and dearest there with you on the big day, right?
Well, for one prospective groom, a very important person has been barred from his wedding day.
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His own daughter.
The man's daughter is from a previous marriage and he says he has 50-50 custody over her, so she's a big part of his life.
However, his new wife has banned him from making the 11-year-old their flower girl.
His fiancée claimed that as the bride, she got final say over the girls in the wedding party and she wanted her niece to be the flower girl rather than her future stepdaughter.
Sharing the heart-wrenching conundrum to Reddit, the doting dad wrote: "I have a daughter (P) from a previous relationship. I divorced my ex-wife on good terms and we share 50/50 custody of P.
"She is now 11. After I divorced my ex-wife I met my now fiancée (S). S and my daughter get along very well. After five years in my relationship with S, I proposed.
"S was super excited and wanted to start planning right away. She looked at venues and started asking her friends to be her bridesmaids.
"She then told me she wanted her niece to be a flower girl. Which I had no problem with, but I said I also wanted P to be a flower girl.
"S looked at me funny and then said that she didn’t think that P would 'fit the part'.
"I got angry and told S that my daughter would be in our wedding. S started to become upset and said that the girls in the wedding were up to her and that P wouldn't be one of them.
"I told S that if P wasn't in the wedding then there might not be a wedding. I stormed out and took P to get ice cream."
The argument even saw the man spending some time away from the home.
He continued: "P knows we are getting married and told me she thinks she will look pretty in whatever dress S decides she should wear. This broke my heart and I decided to text S. I told her I would be staying at a friend's to think this over.
"My mother-in-law texted me saying I and overreacting and that my daughter doesn’t have to be in my wedding and I was an a** for saying that I would cancel.
"So did I take it too far by saying I will cancel? Am I overreacting or just being a good dad?"
Reddit users weighed on the dilemma, with many siding with the dad.
One wrote: "This is a big red flag. If she doesn't want to include her step daughter in her wedding then don't expect she will include your daughter in her life."
Another added: "She seems a little odd to think that your daughter shouldn't take part in this important life event."
While a third said: "Props to you for standing up for your daughter, that’s exactly what a good dad should do. Your fiancé is trying to diminish your daughter’s role in your wedding. I’d be concerned that’ll carry over to other parts of your life too."
The man has since shared an update, explaining that he had ended the relationship and called off the marriage after his fiancée told him she hoped he would 'become a holiday visit only dad'.
He concluded: "Our honeymoon was supposed to be in Hawaii. Looks like me and P will be going instead."