Expert sparks debate after revealing one thing that can ‘kill’ your relationship

An innocuous activity you probably enjoy with your significant other means your relationship is 'falling apart slowly' - according to one expert.

You can listen to his controversial comments below:

If you're wracking your brain trying to think what this pastime that will ruin your relationship could be - spending too much time scrolling on your phone perhaps or getting caught in pointless arguments - you might be be surprised.

In fact, it's how most of us unwind after a long day at work.

This dire warning comes from podcaster and author Jay Shetty, who was speaking on Steven Bartlett’s Diary of a CEO podcast.

Shetty is a former monk, which might explain why his advice comes across as a bit intense. These days he's a lifestyle expert.

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Shetty is taking aim at watching TV with you significant other, calling it the ‘lowest form of intimacy’.

Think you're harmlessly watching Corrie? Actually your relationship is steadily crumbling.

You won’t be surprised to know that his take wasn’t received well by viewers.

However, Shetty was adamant that it’s a spark killer.

The interview originally took place last year, but a resurfaced clip saw him explain his expert opinion on the matter.

Shetty said: “Most of us only do one thing with our partners and it's watching TV.

"And that is the lowest form of intimacy that you could possibly ask for with any human being."

According to the expert, there is a ‘pyramid of intimacy’ that can determine the intimacy value you’re putting into your relationship.

He said: "If you and I watch TV together for 200 hours a year, we would potentially be no closer than we were before. I have this pyramid of intimacy, and entertainment is on the lowest rung of the ladder.

"But that is what the majority of couples are doing. So if we're only watching TV together, I promise you, that relationship is not growing. It is actually falling apart slowly, and you have no idea. I know it is a painful truth to accept."

But people in the comments on his Instagram clip were not on board with his advice.

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One person wrote: "I'm not sure if I agree with this. It shows common interest and sometime playful banter and debate. You can see where you want to visit, different cultures without visiting."

Another said: "I think it’s a balancing act. Because if it means a lot to my husband for me to sit and watch a baseball game with him, I will do it because I know how much he appreciates it.

"Just like I appreciate having him join me at a work event. It’s one aspect of giving and receiving, which also creates a valuable level of intimacy."

Someone else commented: "This is soooo false, digesting media can bring you a lot closer, it all depends how n what you watch and the conversation it brings up between you two.

"However that is also untrue in some instances bc we are all vastly different and what works for some won’t work for others."

Is he right?

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Britt Jones