Mum refuses to tell husband their baby's gender after he misses scan to eat fish and chips with pal
A woman refused to tell her husband the gender of their baby after he chose to eat fish and chips with his friend instead of attending the scan.
Explaining she had reached her 'final straw' the mum explained that her husband had barely attended any medical appointments during the pregnancy, instead choosing to see his mates.
Looking for advice on Reddit, the mum revealed what had happened, explaining she's adamant her husband won't be finding out until the baby is born.
"My husband and I are expecting," she began. "This is our first baby and we're excited. Thing is he barely attends any dr appointments with me and his excuses aren't even valid.
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"He's willing to miss the dr appointment over soccer or a drink or board game with friends. His response is always 'I'm not the one carrying the baby, why do I have to go see the dr with you?'
"Last week was my final straw. He was supposed to come with me for the baby's gender reveal appointment but he chose to not come last minute because his friend invited him to fish 'n' chips meal. I was pretty livid but didn't make a fuss about it. Mom went with me instead."
The woman explained that after the scan, her husband had text her to task the gender.
"I refused to tell him. He kept spam calling me but I hung up each time. He came home fuming demanding I tell him the results but I refused and bluntly told him, since he refused to attend the appointment then he gets no results til after the baby's born and said I was willing to die on this hill," she continued.
"He went off calling me spiteful and immature for doing this and punishing him. He said he's the father and has the right to know. He then called me dramatic since I wasn't alone and mom was with me. I said he gets no results period.
"He's been fuming about it and told his family and they're now pressuring me to stop playing mind games with him and tell him but I declined."
In a later update, the mum explained the husband had attempted to phone the doctor to find out, but as it was his mum who rang, they could not disclose the information.
Other Redditors were shocked by the post, with many horrified that the husband had prioritised seeing friends.
One wrote: "When FISH N CHIPS overrides gender reveal you know you have a problem."
While another said: "You need to seriously reconsider this relationship. He's showing you that he and his friends are more important than you and the baby."
And a third pointed out: "To be clear, this is NOT a gender reveal appointment - it is a full anatomical scan in which they check every organ and limb for potential issues, and as a side note, can also often tell you which genitals baby will have."
What do you think?
Lucy Devine