Jess Hardiman
A TikToker has shared why it’s not okay to judge adult children who cut ties with their parents, saying it’s important to do what you feel is ‘best’.
Chassity Whittington (@chatswithchass) shares her everyday life with her 77,000 TikTok followers, covering everything from style and makeup to recipes and tips on her favourite foodie spots.
A couple of months back, she went viral with a video about a topic that’s perhaps more relatable than some people might assume – your relationship with your parents.
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Whittington believes that people should be able to have 'no contact’ with their parents without judgment, saying it shouldn't be any different to other relationships in your life.
“Stop telling people who have no contact with their parents that they need to either make things right, they need to talk to their parents or that ‘That’s your mom, like, how can you just not talk to her?’” she began.
“I had someone on my live yesterday say that my mom is not guaranteed tomorrow, and that that should give me the reason that I need to talk to her."
Whittington continued: "I have 26 years’ worth of things that have happened.
“I just know that if it was my husband that was saying or doing the things that my mom has done, that y’all would not be telling me that I need to stay with him and talk to him and make it work.
“So why is it different when it comes to parents?”
She added: “I don’t care who you are. I have boundaries. I’m not gonna let people treat me whichever way they wanna treat me.
“Also keep in mind that me being in no contact with my mom was not an easy decision for me. It is not something I wanted to do or that I took lightly, and I’m still not happy about it.
“I don’t want to have this sort of a relationship. I don’t want to be doing this.”
Whittington said she was simply putting herself first and doing what he felt was ‘best’.
Her video attracted a great deal of debate on the platform, raking in thousands of comments.
And it turned out many people agreed with her, with one writing: “It is NEVER the child’s responsibility to ‘fix’ relationships with parents. It’s the parent’s/caretaker’s responsibility.”
Another agreed: “No child goes no contact for no reason.”
A third added: “’You only get one mom’. You only get one you.”
A fourth wrote: "Thank uuuu haven’t talked to my mom in years and I’m happy. Leave me alone!”