Relationship expert gives list of ‘things to consider' when getting back with an ex

With arguably one of social media’s hottest couples reportedly rekindling their love, people are asking whether getting back with an ex is ever a good idea?

Love Island presenter Maya Jama and rapper Stormzy have been seen on holiday together in Greece, four years after their break up.

After splitting up in 2019, it looks as though their relationship is back on the cards - and if anyone has listened to Stormzy’s track ‘Lessons’, it’s not difficult to see why.

The lyrics read: “I knew a woman more wonderful than a Disney one.

“I lost my heart, I just wondered if you could give me one?

They continue: “Fast forward now my nephew's still asking for his Aunty Maya.”

They first met in 2014 before either of them had shot to stardom.

However, the pair finding love in each other again has sparked a debate, on whether you should really ever get back with an ex, and if so, what should you consider?

Dating expert Gillian Myhill says: “Getting back with your ex shouldn’t be a decision that you make lightly.

“If you’re looking to make it work, there are several factors that you need to consider.”

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The first, is to make sure you know why you broke up in the first place. What wasn’t working?

Gillian says: “Consider how much time has passed since you decided to end the relationship.

“You both may have changed as people, and grown and learned some life lessons.

“It’s also important to look at your role in the relationship and take responsibility for any wrongdoing or neglect, and ask yourself honest questions about whether you can approach the relationship and your ex differently.”

She says it also might not be a good idea to rush things.

Be slow and cautious with your approach, because little do you know your ex might not have changed at all, and two break ups with the same person is never ideal.

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Setting clear boundaries is a good idea, and being able to trust your ex is going to be make or break.

You may need to have awkward conversations that confront painful, past situations, but it’s important to have these to move forward.

Gillian says: "You need to be able to trust your ex, and yourself, and you may need to have difficult conversations that involve confronting the past, and you’ll need to make sure you’re ready for that.

"But it’s also important that you make a very conscious decision to move on, start afresh and be ready to forgive.”

Interestingly, her final tip is to take a leaf from Maya and Stormzy's book and jet off for a romantic getaway.

She says: "I recommend taking a break as a couple, going away for the weekend to remove yourself from judgement and other people’s opinions so you can work things out together and impartially."