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A woman has been shamed at a restaurant for her ‘distracting breasts’.
The woman, Adrienne Airhart, took to Twitter to explain how after ‘taking off her shawl’ at her birthday meal, another woman made a rude remark and decided to move away from Adrienne.
Adrienne, who’s a comedian, writer and linguist wrote: “Tonight at my birthday dinner I took off my shawl and the lady at the next table said, “well those are distracting” and moved tables. Still got it!*
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“*prejudice against big naturals”.
Adrienne’s tweet calling out the woman has racked up an impressive 35K likes, while she also posted a video of herself on the evening enjoying a dessert topped with a sparkler for her special day.
“This was me last night. I’m not even that hot, the lady was just a hater,” the woman joked in the video’s caption.
“(Though her date did talk to me when she went to the bathroom…you can hear him).”
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Taking to the comments, many other women shared moments where they experienced s**t shaming from other women.
One woman told Adrienne: “As a teenager, I worked so hard to give my BFF the confidence to take the t-shirt over her one-piece swimsuit off at the beach. It was summer, 100°F. Two minutes later, some lady gasps, 'that is obscene!' and the t-shirt went back on.”
Another added: “I'll never forget when I was on work experience at 15 years old and the lady I was 'working' for wrote in my evaluation that I dressed inappropriately. I didn't, I was wearing exactly what they had told me to wear. I simply had breasts.”
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“My first job as a nurse, I wore the exact same scrubs as everyone else but was told that it was inappropriate because of my cleavage and told I needed to wear a shirt under my scrub top to cover up, which wasn’t the mandatory dress code. If I’d known better I would’ve fought it,” wrote another.
“Wow, she had to physically leave your presence? Well done!”, another praised.
Despite Adrienne making light of the situation, feminist and activist Lindsay McGlone warns how comments like this can be incredibly damaging for women.
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She tells Tyla: “If we s**t shame other women we're feeding into the ideology set by men. Literally, regardless of how a woman dresses we receive criticism: ‘too short’, ‘too long’, ‘show much flesh’, ‘cover-up’, ‘too thin’, ‘too fat’ - we can literally never win.
“I also believe that s**t shaming also ties into the idea that certain women dress a particular way to attract the desire of men,” she explains. “And I can guarantee that the majority of us dress the way we want just for us, and that’s how it should be."
If you find yourself on the receiving end of such shaming comments about your appearance, Lindsay suggests that you make your ‘boundaries absolutely clear’.
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“Calling out unsolicited comments… may not always be that easy, so my advice would be to try and protect yourself as much as possible and remind yourself you can dress however the hell you want.
“Women don’t dress for other people’s desirability”.
However, if you find yourself slipping into these misogynistic thoughts, Lindsay explains that it’s good to ‘check yourself’.
“I'd admit the main reason I'd ever catch myself judging someone is plainly because I'm jealous. It's good to be self-aware as women and make it a safe space for us to be ourselves and protect each other,” she admits.
“We can make changes in our behaviour which means we reinvent the narrative around women's bodies being up for discussion. We own our own bodies and we do with them as we please.”
Featured Image Credit: Twitter/@craydrienne