Woman put her boyfriend on a 'performance improvement plan' to improve their relationship

A woman has received mixed reactions after describing how she put her boyfriend on a 'performance improvement plan' to help save their relationship.

TikToker Nadeen admitted she and her boyfriend were having a 'lot' of issues at the start of their relationship, but claims this plan did the trick:

Most people in a relatively long-term relationship will have probably found a few things they'd rather their partner didn't do. Whether it's never getting rid of an empty toilet roll or leaving crumbs in the butter, you might bicker about it, but if it's meant to be you learn to live with it.

It's unclear exactly what kind of issues Nadeen and her boyfriend were having, but they seem to be bigger - or at least less forgivable - than crumbs in the butter, so she decided to try and eradicate them with the help of the performance improvement plan.

She described the plan as 'what you get put on [in a job] when they're about to fire you', indicating her boyfriend could have been kicked to the curb if the plan didn't work out.

Nadeen said the issues between her and her boyfriend led her to believe they 'weren't compatible', but as they had a 'lot of love for each other' they decided to try the plan as a last resort.

"Before you come at me, I know it's kind of harsh to some of you, but he's an engineer and sometimes it's really hard to communicate without using something he can already relate to," she said. "Plus he kind of liked it."

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The plan was written on a shared note, which had 'daily and weekly tasks' for the boyfriend as well as a 'set of things that he needed to work on'.

Each week, the couple also have a 'retrospective' to check in with each other and see how they're doing.

Nadeen revealed that the plan 'worked out really well', though other TikTok users weren't so taken with the idea.

"I’d prefer not to be someone’s manager or assign tasks though..," one responded, while another wrote: "This is so condescending."

Other viewers showed their support for the idea though, with one guy chiming in to say it would work well for him.

"As a more logical boyfriend I would definitely prefer this method otherwise I become overwhelmed by tasks and I could see it helping with expectations," he wrote.

Nadeen assured her boyfriend wasn't the only one making changes, as she said she also had to learn to be 'more accepting and easy going'.

"We decided that we wanna stay together, and these lifestyle changes were for the better so why not do it?" she said.